How do I control my anger outbursts?

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Postby BO-DACIOUS » Sat Jun 08, 2019 5:43 pm

Ok thank you to you both for all your input. I appreciate it. You've given me a lot to think about. I may get to one of those books one day when my brain is more focused. I will try my best to see the bright side of situations.

Thanks a lot!

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Postby Leo Volont » Sat Jun 08, 2019 9:34 pm

BO-DACIOUS wrote:Ok thank you to you both for all your input. I appreciate it. You've given me a lot to think about. I may get to one of those books one day when my brain is more focused. I will try my best to see the bright side of situations.

Thanks a lot!

Jesse


Hi Jesse,

Well, doing the "Bright" Side thing is also confronting the world emotionally. Yes, it's better than Emotional Negativity. But sometimes you get into just a Broadly Bad Situation (I don't need to remind you about "Broadly Bad", where just to save your emotional strength, you should be mostly just Neutral. Then your focus should be like Damage Control, even if you don't do anything wrong... it is just that you have to Act like it is Damage Control just to keep from being Homeless or something.

But, YES, for People, always have a smile. Before going into Social Situation, put a little bit of a smile in your eyes and predispose you face for a smile. You know Psychology. Just Adopting the Pose creates the Genuine Feeling. I've been taking College Classes and it is strange to see what people walk around with on their faces. People take the time to DRESS carefully, but will walk around with an actually scowl on their face. Now, don't GRIN (like Salesman who over do it). Just look like you thought of something amusing about 10 seconds ago and it is still on your mind.

Hmmmmm. I was just thinking, that you have largely been able to contain your blowup, but you still don't have much of an attention span. What exactly is the MOOD of your failure to concentrate. Is it COMPETING THOUGHTS? As the Cortisol Level declines I would think that the Competing Thought Thing would drop too.
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Postby Leo Volont » Mon Jun 10, 2019 10:13 pm

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BO-DACIOUS wrote:Please, someone help me. Anger is ruining my life.

Hey guys, this is kyle here.

Not so long ago I was a very angry individual and I didnt know how to control it.

Controlling your anger can be really frustrating. It was almost impossible for us to learn how to do without a proper tutorial from the pros.

I've watch hundreds of tutorials online but nothing beats this simple clear to the cut video here-https://clk.ink/oBW8x

click the link above, and you'll land on a 5 sec landing page, just click skip on the top right corner to continue, and you land on YOU TUBE tutorial video where it shows you step by step on how to control your anger even if your a beginner.

i hope that someone would of shown me this when i was first learning how to control my anger that would save me hours an hours of banging my head off the wall trying out different technics.

Again you can watch the tutorial here-https://clk.ink/oBW8x

I'm almost sure this tutorial will blow your mind.

This guy makes controlling your anger look ridiculously easy! no joke.

hope this helps :)

Kyle


Jezus Kyle, That URL is just a URL. Why can't you give us a Searchable Name of Something. I wasn't stupid enough to just Line It and hit Enter. I put it into a Search Engine and the Engine came back with "Whoa! Are you Sure About This?"

Yeah, I'm suspicious.

Plus, your pushing Easy Cures for Anger. Really?
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Postby quietvoice » Tue Jun 11, 2019 1:11 am

lovelife wrote:i shorthened the link thats all

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Postby BO-DACIOUS » Fri Jun 14, 2019 12:51 am

Yeah I dont know why I have a bad attention span..I guess other thoughts intrude. I have been trying to smile more because I know conditioning can cause you to associate the smile with good feelings. Kind of working in reverse.

Kyle, can you tell me what to search on YouTube? I dont like clicking random links I find on line. I appreciate it though!

Thanks guys

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Postby quietvoice » Fri Jun 14, 2019 1:44 am

BO-DACIOUS wrote:Kyle, can you tell me what to search on YouTube? I dont like clicking random links I find on line. I appreciate it though!

He was banned and his posts were deleted because he was spamming with his links.

He did say that it was to a "Sadhguru" video, though.
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Postby Leo Volont » Sat Jun 15, 2019 12:47 pm

quietvoice wrote:
BO-DACIOUS wrote:Kyle, can you tell me what to search on YouTube? I dont like clicking random links I find on line. I appreciate it though!

He was banned and his posts were deleted because he was spamming with his links.

He did say that it was to a "Sadhguru" video, though.


Hi Jesse, Hi Quiet Voice,

Oh, wonder if the guy was talking about 'Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev'. "Sadguru" is sort of an honorific title, meaning "Supreme Guru", because, apparently, just being a 'Guru' isn't enough these days in the Age of "Superstars", when, likewise, being a Star isn't enough. But the 'h' is different. So I looked it up and got Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev. Yeah, I gave up my Guru chasing decades ago, but apparently this guy has been on the rise. Heck, I think his organization even sends me a free magazine every quarter, which is glossy enough that I look it over before tossing it. But, yeah, Everything is a business with this guy, but that might be simply how one has to operate within Capitalism, but going over his programs, I didn't see anything that hinted of anything from the Political Left and advocating for Society in General. He is all about a Clientele, and a Clientele that can pay their way (and he has an Economy Class, Business Class and First Class Programs), SO,I'm guessing he is a Predator. Also, that trick of using his devotees to Trick people onto his Website using "shortened" URLs is kind of sleazy. Really, you think it would be BETTER for Business NOT to be so slippery, oilly, and sleazy. The problem is that their Inner Circle (all these Gurus), which are several thousand people deep, treat them like Gods, and so they lose the power of Self Critique, and they do stuff they should know, and used to know, is just plain Creepy. Really, would it hurt them to hire a Public Relations Person that can tell them exactly how they are to correctly present themselves. You know, if you are going to be a 'Perfect' Guru, then there definitely should be certain Do's and Don'ts. But, in regards to Anger Management, well, with these Guru People, the message is always the same.... it's the same 'Snake Oil Cure' for everything. Basically it is the Guru's brand of Yoga or Meditation. but THAT is MY background and didn't keep me from being Angry, did it? SO, Anger is really specific, and what I have found is that the Cognitive Behavioral Therapies really work the best. We don't need any hocus pocus. BUT, maybe it was my Background into Yoga Techniques that helped me spot that Cortisol Trick (that if you INSTANTLY Relax at the first physiological sign of Stress Tension (jaws locking up, but Jesse has developed a List of other indications, then just that will shut off what would have been a FULL Cortisol Adrenaline Rush.... effectively turning off an Anger Episode even before you realized you were 'angry', that is, before the Cognitive Trigger)
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Postby BO-DACIOUS » Fri Jun 21, 2019 8:09 pm

Yeah that was suspicious to me too. I dont click things like that. What do these gurus do? Is it anger management?

I've been doing much better with anger over the past few weeks. I also attended my first anger management class the other day. I hope that works out well too. Sorry I havent got back to you I'm just really busy and tired.

Thanks again for your help man,

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Postby Leo Volont » Fri Jun 21, 2019 9:59 pm

BO-DACIOUS wrote:Yeah that was suspicious to me too. I dont click things like that. What do these gurus do? Is it anger management?

I've been doing much better with anger over the past few weeks. I also attended my first anger management class the other day. I hope that works out well too. Sorry I havent got back to you I'm just really busy and tired.

Thanks again for your help man,

Jesse


Oh! Great! An Angermangagement Class. Oh, don't forget to tell them about that Cortisol Switch Off Trick (with the Jaw Muscle Tightening and Relaxing, which, however, you advised that OTHER muscle groups tighten up too... oh, by the way, one Lady once pointed out to me that the Jaw Muscles also tighten up before going in for a Kiss or whatever, and yeah, she's right. SO, Affection and Aggression have stuff in common).

Oh, 'what do Gurus do?' Well, Gurus are sort of in the "Meaning of Life Business". They give Spiritual Advice, but I guess where they can start is "What is Spiritual?" what I think is happening is that People really are Animals, BUT they would like to think of themselves in more Ideal Terms. So I think that the Ideal Qualities that separate us from the Animals are what we would call Spiritual. But, many Modern Gurus employ a great deal of Market Research and will offer any product or service that they believe people would pay them for. So we get Gurus offering Motivational Seminars, which is really about honing Predatory Skills, and, really, you can't get any my Animalistic than that. Oh, but there have been some Gurus that I have known who have been able to sort of TURN ON the energy body, or at least have been able to TURN ON the Perception of an Energy Body. This is interesting and I would think that an Energy Body should be useful for something. It goes back to the Tradition of Tribal Shamans who did Healing and Visionary Work. I've often heard and read of this Energy as being a vehicle for the Expansion of Consciousness, BUT, I have still to meet a Guru who can pass the "What Number am I thinking about?" Test.... you know, if they can expand their Consciousness, then they should be able to expand into YOUR consciousness and know what number you are thinking of. But, yes, I have read about Gurus and Shamans that could do that.

Tell us how the Class goes!
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