Starting dating at 27

Postby johnmason » Mon Jul 29, 2019 7:10 pm

So I have never been in a relationship .. So there is this girl I like.. But she is currently pursuing her degree in another city.. The thing is that I have been chatting with this girl.. And I came to know that she knows my elder brother, my cousin brother through facebook.. My elder brother has told almost everything about about me to this girl. She kinda knows about me a lot.. She also used to chat with my cousin brother.. And she even met him in person.. She kinda knows that I like her.. The thing is that would it be ok for me to be in this relationship.. If me and her are goe date. It is most likely will be a long distance relationship.. Considering I have zero dating experience how should I approach this situation
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Jul 29, 2019 7:28 pm

You need dating experience. Find local girls to ask out. Go on numerous dates with different girls. In the next month you should go on at least 5 dates.

Then come back in the forum and post your question about a potential one off date with a girl you have never met in a city far away.
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Postby johnmason » Mon Jul 29, 2019 9:00 pm

I have met her actually.. I mean she stays in my town.. But she studies in another city.. So she do come during holidays..
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Jul 29, 2019 9:10 pm

You are missing the point.

You need dating experience. Go out and meet real girls in your local area, go on dates, gain experience.

Today, it is way too easy to sabotage yourself, going after a long distance woman, chatting online, and then posting in a forum for advice on “how to date”.

If you want to gain experience on how to swim, you friggin go swimming! You do not watch YouTube videos and say you will swim once you get to an ocean 100 kilometers away. You go to the local swimming pool and you swim!

Date if you want to learn how to date!
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Postby johnmason » Wed Aug 07, 2019 2:25 pm

Thank u so much Richard for your advice.. I don't know maybe I am quite desperate.. How do I let go of this desperation..
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Wed Aug 07, 2019 2:44 pm

johnmason wrote: How do I let go of this desperation..


By taking actual, real, meaningful action, i.e. by facing your fears and going on dates with local women.

Sitting on a rock, desperation grows as you contemplate and opine on how to survive the seemingly brutal winter. Food is running low, conditions appear harsh as you text message others about advice, asking how to no longer be desperate.

“Walk,” they say, “Get up off the rock and take actual steps to find food, to hunt, to work, to develop the skills you need to enjoy the fruits of nature. Winter is not so bad, you just need to get up off your @ss and stop wasting time.”

Face your fears. Since your last message, how many women in your local area have you asked to meet for coffee?
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Postby johnmason » Wed Aug 07, 2019 3:09 pm

Will try to do.. May I ask u a question? Are u a life coach?
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Wed Aug 07, 2019 3:20 pm

No. I am not a life coach.

I participate in the forum as a form of relaxation and entertainment. It is a hobby.

Professionally, I’m an educational psychologist.
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Postby johnmason » Mon Aug 12, 2019 3:58 am

She just friendzoned me.. And tried to hook me up with another girl what do I do??
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Aug 12, 2019 4:19 am

You get off the Internet and go meet women in real life.
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Postby johnmason » Mon Aug 12, 2019 4:56 am

Should I try to hook up with another girl??
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Aug 12, 2019 12:02 pm

Three pieces of advice.

-1- Go date local women.
-2- Go date local women.
-3- Go date local women.

Combined with the other advice already provided you should be smart enough to figure out what to do. If not, then by all means stay on the Internet surfing for a “hook up” long distance. That will be the best for women and society.
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