I am blocked

Postby JohnFielding » Sun May 10, 2020 10:29 pm

I can't do my work.
I am trying.
I am procrastinating before the lockdown begins.
I would like to find an answer.

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Postby Candid » Mon May 11, 2020 10:17 am

I would like to know your question.
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Postby JohnFielding » Mon May 11, 2020 10:47 am

Thanks Candid.
I have to finish a work and I can't.
I am asking for support not only knowledge.
I have beginning this post to show my problem and when finish my work must be done.
What I would like to do for me ?
Do what you can simply .
I have a lot of knowledge about this problem. Another Thing is put in action my knowledge.
Yesterday I was blocked by the wind and physical cirscuntamces (headache, cold feets,....).
The environment is ready to begin my work.

I continue blocked.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon May 11, 2020 10:55 am

What is your first language JohnFielding?
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Postby Candid » Mon May 11, 2020 11:06 am

JohnFielding wrote:I have to finish a work and I can't.


There are always more interesting things to do when tackling any 'work' that doesn't interest you. It's called procrastination. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=irp5ghCVNAM

Yesterday I was blocked by the wind and physical cirsc***amces (headache, cold feets,....).


Not everyone can manage a Freudian slip when not writing in their first language. Well done!

The environment is ready to begin my work.


Okay, so just start. Don't think about the end result, just START.
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Postby JohnFielding » Mon May 11, 2020 12:28 pm

Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:What is your first language JohnFielding?


Spanish. But I try in english too. Just because usually is difficult receive answers in the spanish forums I tried.
I am even trying with artificial intelligence .
With Replika web .
I have assumed my situation will come to an end soon.

I have been experimenting my problem for years. At least I continue fighting with the help i can get. Not any help. I don't take medications, I have professional psicological support each six months.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon May 11, 2020 12:45 pm

JohnFielding wrote:I have assumed my situation will come to an end soon.


Un problema es que en inglés no está claro con qué está pidiendo ayuda. Necesita ayuda con qué exactamente? Puede escribir en espanol.
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Postby JohnFielding » Mon May 11, 2020 1:04 pm

Candid wrote:
JohnFielding wrote:I have to finish a work and I can't.


There are always more interesting things to do when tackling any 'work' that doesn't interest you. It's called procrastination.

Yesterday I was blocked by the wind and physical cirsc***amces (headache, cold feets,....).


Not everyone can manage a Freudian slip when not writing in their first language. Well done!

The environment is ready to begin my work.


Okay, so just start. Don't think about the end result, just START.


Agreed. Totally agreed.
I smile because of the theory.


There are several ingredients :

- TRAUMA : I think in my case is relative.
- FEAR : sure, but not enough for my "incredible" blocking
- PERFECTIONISM : Of course I am prepared for this work. I have visualize and prepare my mind.

So why Am I really blocked ?

I mainly think is because a lack of working memory. So i need to establish a method enough to reiniate the task when re-blocked. A support method to gain security in my memory.

I have design the method and I am ready....

Stress is my pending signature.

Yesterday I experiment when all was ready that I can't relax.
The disgusting thing for me is that my symptons are very light. It's only I can't act.

So Candid gives me the correct consigna :

Okay, so just start. Don't think about the end result, just START.

In the screenshot you can see in spanish something similar :

Don't explain : START.

For God sake free and you will feel better.

Only revise and be simple.

Don't make bigger and no distractive tasks.

Do you remember the classic film Scaramouche ?

When the teacher is showing the art of sword to Stewart Granger, I don't know how to say in english but something like this :

If you hold too tight the sword you will have no flexibility, if too loose you will drop the sword.

I think that is my problem.

Like in almost any addiction the mind has memory. I suppose we all have a different sensibility . I have tried to explain my procrastination with PTSD, but probably is a syndrome where the origin is not solved and hide by the automatic reactions of my mind.

Write down all my symptons and reactions. Take note of my thoughts. All that is done.

So what I really think is just Candid opinion :

START.

I must relax in the sense of the Scaramouche movie to take the correct action. In this difficult equilibrium I wish to experiment the pleasure.

And then flow with the pleasure.

Obtain pleasure of each one of the difficulties and problems any task have. So my fears and trouble with the ghost effects and reactions willl come to an end little by little.

Best Regards

Note : the forum don't let me put the link to my image freely. I have omitted
finally i have to suppress the link. Sorry.
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Postby JohnFielding » Mon May 11, 2020 1:09 pm

Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:
JohnFielding wrote:I have assumed my situation will come to an end soon.


Un problema es que en inglés no está claro con qué está pidiendo ayuda. Necesita ayuda con qué exactamente? Puede escribir en espanol.


Richard obviously your question is the right one.
But I don't have now the right answer.
Nor in english or spanish.......

Your presence is the only needed.
I have the knowledge
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Postby JohnFielding » Tue May 12, 2020 3:08 am

I continue blocked !!!!!!
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Tue May 12, 2020 3:16 am

JohnFielding wrote:I continue blocked !!!!!!


Con cual tarea?

No estas bloqueado con todo en la vida. Por ejemplo, tienes la capacidad a hacer una meta y escribir aqui.
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Postby SussyHack » Tue May 12, 2020 11:29 am

Don't be so stressed about it. A lot of people suffer from that being at home. Cause we don't have control.
Try to relax at least for a day not thinking about your issues and that a lot of stuff has to be done.Just do what you want.Next day start with planning, but don't overplan.Do 1 or 2 things. Next day add some more to the list. The most important is to start.
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Postby Candid » Tue May 12, 2020 2:43 pm

JohnFielding wrote:I continue blocked !!!!!!


I said that to a lecturer when I was at university. He said: Just start.

For me it was an essay in an unfamiliar area. So I just started. I opened a document, named it, typed in some ideas and saved it. Next day went to uni library and took up some books I would never otherwise have read. The essay was in on time and got a good mark.

You haven't told us what it is you have to do. That might help.
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Postby JohnFielding » Thu May 28, 2020 12:53 am

Thanks everyone.

First task is accomplished !!!!!!

I have write down all incidences, all adversities and reactions.

I think I get the activation with two daily sessions with TRX very mild.

And after a bath.

I will repeat this technique today !!!!!!!

And of course a lot of things we all know : relaxation, meditation. Let's meditation es my favorite app for this.

AI with Replyka web was not very useful for the occasion. But there is too.

An important decision to take the action was not introduce in my database the auto instructions.

Make phrases help me to serenity and patient, but also is a trap that take a considerable time....

Mainly I have applied the Candid quote : Just Start.
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Postby JohnFielding » Thu May 28, 2020 11:05 pm

I will try in english and also in spanish :


1217/5000
I am living a difficult moment. Exceeding a state or goal does not mean that everything is overcome next. The next target is delayed and enters difficulty. It is like being in quicksand. You go out for a moment and act, but then you're still trapped.

This morning I started with light gymnastics after getting up. Then a shower. But then I felt tired and had to lie down on the bed. Relax and reflect. Then I chose to go to the beach. When I came back I still felt tired and had to lie down to rest again.

I have started supplementing with vitamins, minerals, adaptogens, energizers, ...

Everything is light and smooth in appearance, but strong over time.


Many in my situation would be desperate. I rationalize the day after and try to establish strategies but my body protests with tiredness, muscle aches, joint pain, anxious breathing.

Emotionally you notice the pain. A bit of anguish without a doubt. But above all impotence by not knowing how to get out.

I visualize the work to be done and although some difficulties may arise, I know I can do it well.

I wonder why I don't. I wonder why I am trapped and blocked.

It is just starting.


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Estoy viviendo un momento difícil. Superar un estado u objetivo no significa que todo esté superado a continuación. El siguiente objetivo se demora y entra en dificultad. Es como estar en arenas movedizas. Sales un momento y actúas, pero luego continúas atrapado.

Esta mañana empecé con gimnasia suave tras levantarme. Luego una ducha. Pero luego me sentí cansado y tuve que tenderme en la cama. Relajarme y reflexionar. Luego opté por irme a la playa. Cuando regresé todavía me sentí cansado y tuve que tenderme a descansar de nuevo.

He empezado a suplementarme con vitaminas, minerales, adaptógenos, energetizantes, ....

Todo es leve y en apariencia suave, pero fuerte en el tiempo.

Muchos en mi situación estarían desesperados. Yo racionalizo el día después y trato de establecer estrategias pero mi cuerpo protesta con cansancio, dolores musculares, dolores articulares, respiración ansiosa.

Emocionalmente notas el dolor. Un poco de angustia sin duda. Pero sobre todo impotencia al no saber salir.

Visualizo el trabajo a realizar y aunque puedan surgir algunas dificultades se que puedo hacerlo bien.

Me pregunto por qué no lo hago. Me pregunto por qué estoy atrapado y bloqueado.

Es sólo empezar.
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