Postby DANGELED_ANGER » Wed Mar 17, 2021 4:46 pm

First time post just need to vent.
I’ve been angry ever since I can remember but unbeknownst to me until a few years back that my parents sent me away right after my mom gave birth to me to a 3rd world country to live with grandparents so they could get on their feet. I don’t have a problem with them trying to struggle for a better life for themselves and me the problem I have with this is that my mom threw it in a conversation as common knowledge.
Now in my mid 40’s looking thinking about what I heard I can only imagine all the sh** I must have got myself into w/o supervision as I stated they sent me away to be with grandparents. Ever try catching a mouse in the dark with a fragile body?
What I do remember is always feeling disconnected from mom and dad and running away as fast and as long as I could. Father was never around for most of the time except whenever he needed a bed to sleep in or for family photos grinning from ear to ear. I was confused didn’t know why mom was always yelling at him from the top of the stairs I couldn’t make out what was being said but sure as hell she was furious with him. My 2 older sisters who knew better than I and my grandmother would just crush his drunken spirit. After this went on for many years during his absence I was told terrible things about this man. Like that I should hate him too. Things like you need him and he’s never here for. He’s a bad dad for not wanting to spend time with you. So I grew to hate him but there were times when we were alone either him driving me to school or spending time with his friends that I saw another side of him. Definitely one where he was lost but had a big heart and that only made things more confusing from the conflicting messages I was receiving from the ladies at home, watching other kids my age with their dads, tv stereotypes certainly added to it and then my own interpretations just mashed together leaving me desperate for male attention the same males I’ve grown up to mistrust and question everything about their intent.

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Postby bawdyheated » Thu Mar 18, 2021 6:23 am

Hey, I hope you get better soon. We are here to help you.
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Postby DANGELED_ANGER » Thu Mar 18, 2021 12:42 pm

Appreciate your reply. Thanks it’s nice to be acknowledged. ✌️
Woke up today feeling inspired to get errands done so thanks again for that much needed energy boost.
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Postby Leo Volont » Fri Apr 02, 2021 12:30 am

Hi Dangled,

I was called up for an urgent business trip and didn't have time even to bring up this Forum once, but now I'm back. Sorry for the delay.

Okay, I read all that. You know we all got problems. The question is "do you have Anger Issues?".

But your back story is intriguing. The salient point there for me is that mostly women are too darn hard on men, especially fathers. But Men aren't Women. What is a man supposed to do with a child anyway? You know that for hundreds of thousands of years of Human Evolution, ever since we came down from the Trees and our Monkey Tails dropped off we've been evolving in Small Group Colonies of from 50 to 150 members, and the Huts were not Single Family Dwellings. the Women had grouped together and they raised all of the children almost in common. Some languages even picked this up in the sense that the children of the same generation are all "brothers" and "sisters" without some easy word for "cousin". Men sort of slept around. What men did for children was to provide Role Models, and what was GREAT about back then was that the children could see A VARIETY OF ROLE MODELS and make their own judgments about who was "cool" and who was a "creep". NOW, if we even have a "father" living in the house, well, how is a kid supposed to know that the guy their mom is straddling isn't a low life creep or not. But, yeah, women really do have an instinct for 'gold digging' and so they show great displeasure for any man who once slapped their butt but now doesn't slap down their paycheck every other Friday. Yeah, so women can act like prostitutes and then they criticize us to their children.

Oh, and by the way, you had it GOOD that Grandpa and Grandma raised you. THEY had experience, wisdom and maturity. Your mom was really just a child herself, right?

You know, there is a reason why most people are SO dysfunctional. The Nuclear Family thing just doesn't work. We need to live in Communal Setting, with about 50 to 150 people. And the women that decide to be mothers need a 4 year Bachelor of Arts degree and a Masters in Childhood Development. Parenting is too important to be left to silly ditzes who don 't even realize how awful it sounds when they talk like whores in front of their kids.

BUT! None of that was about Anger Issues, was it, and this is an Anger Management Forum.; SO, please let me know how I can help.
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