There is no help!

Postby Thomas » Sat Nov 27, 2021 4:30 pm

No ones helps me because there is nothing that can help. Everything is meaningless.
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Postby desperate788 » Sat Nov 27, 2021 4:44 pm

What does this mean? What are you trying to tell? I didnt understand a Word.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sat Nov 27, 2021 6:08 pm

Thomas wrote:No ones helps me because there is nothing that can help. Everything is meaningless.


True. People tend to help those that want to help themselves. People tend to avoid helping those that are unwilling or unable to help themselves.

It’s not that people are uncaring. It’s just reality.

The idea of life without helping yourself is a relatively new concept. It has only been around for less than 10,000 years. Before civilization, if you didn’t want to help yourself, you died. It wasn’t good or bad. It was just life.
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Postby Thomas » Sat Nov 27, 2021 7:16 pm

My world is nothing but suffering, depression and anxiety. I have nothing I know I am just a loser and a coward and I cannot continue this way.
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Postby desperate788 » Sat Nov 27, 2021 7:23 pm

You are not the only one
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sat Nov 27, 2021 7:40 pm

Thomas wrote:…and I cannot continue this way.


Ok. So don’t.
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Postby Thomas » Mon Dec 13, 2021 10:30 pm

Down to 129 lbs won't be long now!
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Dec 13, 2021 11:33 pm

Thomas wrote:Down to 129 lbs won't be long now!


Until what? Until you gain more weight? Until you lose more weight?

It is an absolute bu@#s#$& idea that “help” means other people in a community must beg, plead, or otherwise convince another person to eat or maintain a certain weight for their own good.

It’s like a person saying they haven’t brushed their teeth, so it “won’t be long now,” until they develop gum disease and their teeth fall out. As if, society or the community is supposed to offer some magical combination of words that convince this person to brush their teeth. Or is the community supposed to hold the person down and brush the person’s teeth for them so they don’t get bad teeth?

I get that anorexia is a mental pathology. Still, pragmatically there is no “help” that can be offered outside of conversation and then holding them down and force feeding them.

And you can’t force feed someone via the Internet. And even if you could, why? Let the person make their own path in life, even if you don’t agree with that path.

I wish you the best of luck, in whatever path you choose to take of your own free will.

And I wish anyone that comes across this thread the wisdom to recognize when a person doesn’t actually want help. It’s fake. It’s a BS request for help. It’s trying to manipulate strangers into some sense of responsibility for the choices this other person is making. In this sense, they can continue doing whatever they wish, yet blame the world for “not helping”.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Tue Dec 14, 2021 2:52 pm

Thomas wrote: I have decided the only thing left for me is death. To hasten this end I have all but stopped eating losing a pound a day. I also stopped taking all of the medication antidepressant, anti-anxiety, anticoagulants, high blood pressure, diabetes all of it.
I'm just sitting here waiting for another stroke to kill me the sooner the better!


From your original thread.

You can choose to take your medications. You can choose to eat. You can choose whatever path you wish.

Help? The “help” that any stranger in a forum can offer is to make a feeble attempt to thread together some words that do what exactly? Convince you to eat? Convince you that taking your medications is the right path?

A forum full of strangers is you intentionally avoiding help. It isn’t you asking for help. It is a way to make yourself feel like you are soliciting help, when the opposite holds true.

If you actually want help, reach out to people that can provide help, eg medical professionals. Reach out to people in your community.
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Postby Jamicah-Walmer » Tue Dec 14, 2021 9:01 pm

Listen.,

Richard, this has gone on for far too long. My students and I have been reading your comments for a semester and we are concerned with your lack of empathy. Their homework for this quarter was to come together and give you tips on how to council others.

We have noticed that you lack human decency!!!!
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Tue Dec 14, 2021 9:39 pm

Jamicah-Walmer wrote:Richard, this has gone on for far too long. We have noticed that you lack human decency!!!!


I don’t see you offering advice. You have two posts total. You are more than welcome to be active in the forum. Heck, you can go back into all the threads where you feel my response wasn’t to your liking and offer the OP some alternative opinions.

Feel free! I look forward to learning from you how I might improve.
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Postby quietvoice » Tue Dec 14, 2021 10:02 pm

Jamicah-Walmer wrote:Listen.,

Richard, this has gone on for far too long. My students and I have been reading your comments for a semester and we are concerned with your lack of empathy. Their homework for this quarter was to come together and give you tips on how to council others.

We have noticed that you lack human decency!!!!

Love this. LOL
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Tue Dec 14, 2021 10:08 pm

quietvoice wrote:Love this. LOL


Me too! LOL!

Somebody creates a blatantly fake story, and makes all of two posts! LOL. Very funny. Gotta love it. And better yet, they don’t offer any advice to the OP, or make any contribution. They are more than welcome to contribute and show me how to improve.

Good stuff!
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Postby quietvoice » Tue Dec 14, 2021 11:00 pm

Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:Good stuff!

Yes, tasty!
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