Terrified for tomorrow's presentation

Postby conjurethezebra » Sun Nov 27, 2016 9:59 am

I have a presentation tomorrow. It's gonna be a powerpoint presentation and the slides basically have just a few pointers and then when it's my turn to present I just speak from what I've memorised about the given topic.

But every time I have to go up and speak in public, I'm visibly terrified. My hands and voice shake uncontrollably, I get a lump in my throat, I go red, and stare at the ground. I get like this even when we have to read off of a piece of paper without even looking up at the class. And people really, really, really notice. Sometimes I have breathing problems. The whole class can tell how scared I am. I have stomach cramps before I go up there. I have hot and cold flashes. The paper in my hand starts to shake and I forget everything. Even when I'm reading off of something, I begin reading without even thinking what I'm saying. I'm pretty sure when I go up there tomorrow, I'll forget everything.

The presentation is tomorrow. I'm in a group of 3 other people who are all ready. I haven't really made my slides yet, but that's not much of a problem.
Another thing is, this is a teacher I really respect and stuff.

I'm just terrified and need a solution ASAP. I know that's not how it works but...God, what do I do? I'm desperate for some help. I can't stop thinking about it. I'm so nervous that I can't even start working on the presentation.
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Postby All in the mind » Sun Nov 27, 2016 1:54 pm

At this late stage focus on managing your anxiety using breathing techniques: http://www.clinicalhypnotherapy-cardiff ... echniques/

If you need to do presentations in the future, then be decisive about your preparation and commitment to the objective. When you wait until last mintute, you will have built up anticipatory anxiety. http://www.clinicalhypnotherapy-cardiff ... king-tips/
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Postby AlexD » Mon Nov 28, 2016 9:03 pm

Public speaking is challenging to many at first. But here is the blunt truth: do what you fear most, and you will control fear, right? I know that you are probably delivering your presentation as I am writing this response, but just know that there are many, many ways to go around that fear (which is quite natural, by the way), even before you go out there to speak.

If the topic is not too new to you, you will be able to find ways to improvise intelligently when you forget that exact amazing phrase you were planning to shoot out there. But most importantly, with a newer topic, or anytime you feel you are losing it, realize that you need to practice your presentations. You can get your awesome self it in front of your mirror dressed the exact way you will be dressed during the event. You can run up and down a flight of stairs at least ten times and then do your presentation with a microphone in front of you to listen afterwards. You can also ask a small circle of family/friends to sit around and listen to you. It is called rehearsal time. Nothing shameful about it. But yes, you need to make time and put the effort into it. You may need to do it several times. The reason why these techniques are good is because they make your heart race and you will become just as critical of yourself as you will in front of your real audience.
I've learned these approaches from a great coach who wrote "Audition Success". I was a performing musician for a long time, read the book and did what he taught. Trust me, it helps. The presentation itself is nothing. The preparation is what counts. Writing the powerpoint is just the basic work. But your delivery is what makes the presentation powerful.
Do your homework. Rehearse. I know it may feel like a hassle, but how much do you want to improve, how much control do you want to have over yourself, and how confident do you want to be? As you gin more experience, you will need less rehearsing. But you may have some very important speeches in your career, when you will need many rehearsals again. Realize that very few people are naturally good public speakers. Very, very few. Therefore, set yourself up for success by creating the stress artificially in your home first.
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Postby mayermp » Thu Dec 01, 2016 5:28 pm

The Best way is to pratice a lot.
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Postby cynthialeighton » Thu Dec 15, 2016 1:09 am

How did it go?
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Postby laureat » Thu Dec 15, 2016 1:46 am

you have to give oneself freedom to make mistakes,
even if you make mistakes, dont worry about it
even if everything goes wrong, dont worry about it

and you look for positive experience
if you have to do the talking, enjoy it, be proud of it
even its just a little,
dont mind it if you dont go high intensity, take your time, relax,
so you try to change how you feel about the situation
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Postby SuzieO » Thu Dec 15, 2016 5:59 am

Hi thanks for sharing your story!
I also have had trouble in the past with public speaking. NLP worked well for me. Basically what I did was to firstly visualise something I did well and when I felt really confident I would push my thumb and forefinger together with a strong amount of pressure. I continued to do the visualising and pressing of my thumb and fore finger until I could press fingers together and automatically felt strong and confident. From memory this is called anchoring. Once I had the anchor I would start to visualise myself doing the public speaking and each time I would see myself using the anchoring point before starting my presentation and seeing myself as confident and strong. In fact I would see myself being introduced and at that time I would anchor into my confident self. When I actually did the presentation, the moment I heard my name being stated as the next presentation my confidence started to build. I was able to complete my talk with noticeably less stress than anytime previously. I have continued to use this technique and now have just a few nerves before any public speaking.

Hope this helps :D
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Postby J Derrington » Wed Mar 28, 2018 2:19 pm

You are afraid and nervous because of the unconscious beliefs you have about yourself and others. Don't beat yourself up for it though! This is such a common fear. There is no better recipe for suffering than to make your problems 10 times heavier by telling yourself that you shouldn't have them. You can let go of these beliefs and the fear that comes with them is a process that takes time but it can be done.

1. Understand where this fear comes from
2. Take action

1. This fear comes from your underlying beliefs. Even though you might not be aware of it, you probably unconsciously believe that you have to be perfect for others to like you, that if you say something wrong people will think that you are stupid and will think less of you, that you are fundamentally imperfect (so you have to be constantly monitoring yourself, doing something so that this doesn't shine through. You don't think that you can simply relax and still be ok)... These beliefs were acquired as you were growing up, in school, through your parents, your peers, ... As a child you misinterpret people's criticism and anger towards you as an indication that you are imperfect just by being yourself. They are stored in you in the form of this nervousness/fear you feel.

2. You can only let go of these beliefs by taking action. You have to receive experiences where you will feel this nervousness, that meeting you had was a great opportunity to experience the nervousness and to tell yourself that it is just your body trying to protect you from being rejected by your peers.There is probably a Toastmasters group near you that you can join to practice your public speaking. Don't beat yourself up for being afraid. The fear is there, don't resist it, understand it. It is your body telling you to run away so people don't see what you are scared they will see. I recommend that you seek out your opportunities, so that you can rewrite your unconscious opinion of yourself, and to see that you are OK just by being yourself, and that people are welcoming of you as you are. You will come to see things for how they are, and not like your inner fear sees them as. :D
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