Please, help advice. I am in anticipation of something bad

Postby Arkady » Fri Mar 03, 2017 12:52 pm

All the time I am in anticipation of something bad. I suffer panic attacks, but I had learned to cope. Now there is no a panic attack, but all the time I am waiting the horror. Even self-hypnosis is not entirely effective. I am very sensitive to everything that happens in the world (wars, refugees, poverty, terrorism, corruption, lies of the government)
 I can not relax, I'm tired of waiting. Sometimes comes the idea that if I will not become better, the world will not become better too. I identify my life with the total ending of life of all mankind. This is a responsibility I feel. What can you advise me. How should I live?
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Postby quietvoice » Fri Mar 03, 2017 1:33 pm

Arkady wrote: I can not relax, I'm tired of waiting. . . . How should I live?

You can recognize that it is your thinking that is creating your feelings/emotions. Step back and see the habitual thinking going on, and see if you can stop "identifying" with your thoughts, and just let them come and go as they please, without building upon each upsetting thought.
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Postby Arkady » Fri Mar 03, 2017 2:08 pm

Thanks for the answer. I agree that my thinking creates my feelings and emotions. Sometimes thoughts harm more than some sort of real danger. How to learn to banish bad thoughts. I do not accept antidepressants, alcohol or drugs. I'm against it. Maybe I need more positive emotions in life?
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Postby strawberry4 » Sat Apr 01, 2017 10:04 pm

Hi, I really can't help you because I'm dealing with the same. I just made this comment to let you know that there are other people who suffer from this too and you're not alone. (Sometimes it helps me when other people tell me that I'm not the only one dealing with the problem)
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Postby wonkymirror » Sat Apr 01, 2017 10:17 pm

You cannot take the weight of the world on your shoulders, I think if you were to volunteer or throw yourself in any activity that would enrich the life of others, not only would you be giving yourself less time to overthink and maintain this vicious circle but you would be playing a part in making the world a better place. It is also humbling to be confronted with others who are in similar, or worse circumstances to yourself.
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Postby gull2516 » Sun Apr 02, 2017 6:35 pm

Arkady wrote:Thanks for the answer. I agree that my thinking creates my feelings and emotions. Sometimes thoughts harm more than some sort of real danger. How to learn to banish bad thoughts. I do not accept antidepressants, alcohol or drugs. I'm against it. Maybe I need more positive emotions in life?


Arkady,

What are your beleifs? What is your job? Try get more engaged in something. I can tell from my experience that a regular physical activity can wipe out most the 'horror' from your thoughts.
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Postby Arkady » Sun Apr 02, 2017 7:31 pm

It seems to me that physical activity helps to think quickly and make the right decisions. But thoughts of the bad are not destroyed. They just fade out for a while. It's like a terrible dog lives in your body and waits when you will be relax to bite you. Do I really need to be alert all the time?
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Postby gull2516 » Sun Apr 02, 2017 8:11 pm

Physical activity is not make you quick.
Say, a long run can help to combat anxiety.
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Postby wonkymirror » Sun Apr 02, 2017 8:13 pm

No you don't, getting stuck in that exhaustive cycle will serve to make matters worse, sometimes it is better to accept the limits of recovery and understand that although you may still have "bad thoughts" as most people do, but you can learn how to not to let them take hold. I have found it helps me to say "okay I'm feeling sh*t today, but I know I won't always feel this way, so I shouldn't give myself too hard a time about it" I let myself feel whatever I feel, and then do my best to dust myself off and carry on living life. I make it sound so bleak, but as soon as I realized that for now at least, this is part of my thought process, it lifted a small weight
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Postby Arkady » Sun Apr 02, 2017 8:51 pm

Bad thoughts come from for feelings of dissatisfaction. Dissatisfaction with themselves, discontent of the world around them, intolerance towards injustice, etc. You can enjoy by nature, all there birds and animals, but it is not enough. When you create something, then the feeling of satisfaction comes. When you hear the news that, for example, Elon Musk made a new success in the space industry - this is also inspiring. What is beyond the horizon of our consciousness? Human thought, idea, ways of development. Maybe. Maybe there is no sense of expectation that something bad can happen, but need to move in a different direction, I mean to self-develop and help others in development. What must be, must be. We soon believe what we desire.
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