I lost my chalk bag

Postby winzer » Sat Jun 17, 2017 8:27 pm

I have been rock climbing since I was very young. I have always used the same chalk bag. 1 month ago I lost it. I lost something that I had had for 10 years. Yes it is an inanimate object that posses no feelings. But I can't help but feel that I have some emotional attachment over it. I don't feel like climbing anymore. I realize that I could make a new purchase and there are tons of chalk bags out there. I may be able to purchase the same looking one. But this particular one has been on many adventures and was there when I started climbing. It has been my buddy whenever I would go climbing. I don't know if people think of objects this way, but almost feel like it was my friend. Now that it is gone, I really have no desire to climb anymore and feel extremely down. As I write this, I'm almost tearing up.

Have you lost something that was dear to you? What did you do about it? How did you move on? Do you form strong emotional attachments to things?
winzer
Junior Member
 
Posts: 64
Joined: Tue Sep 22, 2015 5:16 am
Likes Received: 1


#1

Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sun Jun 18, 2017 6:00 am

It is very normal to build a certain degree of emotional attachment to inanimate objects. It starts at a very young age. One reason is that objects help us trigger good memories. House fires are not so emotionally crushing because of the money, but more due to sentimental items that are often lost. I had an apartment burn up once. I lost a lot of material wealth, but was fortunate that my sentimental items were secure in a trunk and saved.

Regardless, allowing oneself to be controlled by a memory is unhealthy. There is healthy emotional attachement in the form of the fond memory and an unhealthy attachment when the loss keeps you from moving forward.

It may sound silly, but you move forward by saying goodbye and accepting the bag being gone is part of life and that the bag would want you to continue to climb. While silly to think what the bag would want you to do, it is even more silly to let a memory keep you from moving forward.
User avatar
Richard@DecisionSkills
MVP
MVP
 
Posts: 10548
Joined: Sat Dec 08, 2012 2:25 am
Likes Received: 1081



  • Similar Topics
    Replies
    Views
    Last post

Return to Depression