How to deal with panic attacks?

Postby undia » Thu Sep 14, 2017 4:19 pm

Basically a girl I know quite well in my chemistry class gets really bad panic attacks and literally it is the second week of sixth form and she has already started having them. I was in her drama class last year and they happened a lot and they made me feel panicked and upset but luckily there wasn't much to focus on. She had one today quite early on in the lesson and it really threw me off for most of the lesson. I generally struggle with focus and we were covering some really tricky stuff. I really don't want to sound insensitive or mean because I know she doesn't so it for attention or on purpose but i am worried when the course gets more intense she will have them more and more and I think it might affect my learning as well. I really don't mean to sound selfish but i have a lot riding on me doing well in chemistry and I know that her panic attacks affect me. I don't know what to do because there is no other class i could do instead and i really don't want to drop it because of her.
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Postby imasadhuman » Fri Sep 15, 2017 12:40 am

Instead of complaining about her you should help her. This girl has had some very traumatic experiences that cause these panic attacks. I have panic attacks and understand this type of thing. Everytime i have a panic attack im reliving horrible things. Like the murder of my best friend, The abuse that i endured in the fostercare system, The rapes that have happened to me... and so on. You are complaining because she is upsetting you, but you need to think about the horrors that she will be living with for the REST OF HER LIFE NON-STOP. Look up some ways online to help with panic attacks. Talk to her when this happens. Help her work through it. I know im only 14 and cant really tell you what to do, but she just needs some love. Be her friend, learn how to help her. Just simply being kind to her and doing these things could save her life. I wish so much that somebody would be there for me when this happens. I wish somebody would have tried to help me before I attempted suicide. The panic attack arent going to stop anytime soon for this girl. But you trying to be her friend instead of complaining, could be the difference between her life and death. Phycology Today has many helpful ways to help avoid and get out of panic attacks.
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Postby undia » Mon Sep 18, 2017 7:42 pm

imasadhuman wrote:Instead of complaining about her you should help her.


I don't think you completely understand what I'm saying, She hasn't had any traumatic experiences, I know because I talked to her about it she just finds it really hard to deal with stress and peoples expectations. She has all the support and help you could possibly get in her situation and I'm really glad for her that she has all the support she gets from her friends as well. It's not like I just find her disruptive because I totally understand where she is coming from. Its just as someone who had a history of mental health issues, dyslexia and visual stress I find it really difficult to focus and work anyway and for most of my education I have had no help for it at all so I have a severe disadvantage compared to the average person. There is no more help I could give this girl because if it is there she already has it. What I am saying is that as a person who doesn't have that kind of support and mostly has no help from the school or peers for my issues I may not be able to continue with my own education because of how her issues affect me. Let me be perfectly clear I am NOT complaining. This is purely a post about how I should deal with this situation not how I should deal with her. In this situation I need help with dealing with the issue I have. (I don't mean to sound self centred but I' am not criticising her as this is a really important step in my own education.)
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Postby imasadhuman » Mon Sep 18, 2017 11:08 pm

oh. I am sorry for misunderstanding you and being rude like that then. I guess im just a little bit sensitive about this kind of thing. Why dont you see if the school administrators can move you schedule a little bit. Like mix up your classes so none of them are with her. Or if that doesnt work explain your situation to your teacher and see if they can find a way to help you. Maybe you could have some calming music to play for yourself in some headphones or a place to sit in the class where her attacks are less evident to you. Once again I am extremely sorry for misinterpereting what you meant.
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Postby undia » Tue Sep 19, 2017 6:44 am

don't worry about it I do realise how out of context it does sound really selfish. But I might go talk to the head of department and just talk to them about it :)
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