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#495

Postby desperate788 » Sun Dec 02, 2018 1:55 pm

It's me I think I wanted to go out when it's unhealthy now I want to stay when going out is healthy. I have some subconscious probs
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#496

Postby desperate788 » Sun Dec 02, 2018 3:18 pm

I'm chilling out at cafe..
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#497

Postby desperate788 » Sun Dec 02, 2018 4:03 pm

I'm sad and worried..missed my mother.
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#498

Postby desperate788 » Sun Dec 02, 2018 4:13 pm

I don't want to go to work
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#499

Postby desperate788 » Sun Dec 02, 2018 5:16 pm

I'm a disgusting money spending machine and I don't want to go to work tomorrow
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Postby Candid » Mon Dec 03, 2018 6:57 am

I was away for the weekend. Back now, but lots going on between now and mid-January.
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#501

Postby desperate788 » Mon Dec 03, 2018 7:02 am

Welcome..We missed you.
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Postby Candid » Mon Dec 03, 2018 7:08 am

I can believe you did, but I don't think anyone else would have noticed... because like Richard said, other people are out doing stuff instead of sitting in the dark thinking they haven't got anything to do.

I hope you spent at least some time thinking about living in Istanbul, and what it will take to get you there.
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Postby desperate788 » Mon Dec 03, 2018 7:40 am

I'm seriously thinking that. While holding the same job or not. I can't wake up on time that's a prob for private sector.
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Postby Candid » Mon Dec 03, 2018 7:56 am

You could have a lot of fun designing the perfect job for you. That's the way to approach it: decide what would fire you up so much that getting out of bed would no longer be a problem, then match your skill set to the desired job and see what else you need to work on.

Also, keep thinking how good it would be to live near to your mother and other relatives. That will give you the momentum to keep working towards a goal.

Between you and me, I've often moved to the location I wanted, then looked for a job when I got there. Mostly it worked beautifully, once it was such Un Grand Erreur that I scrambled about for more than two years in horrible and badly paid jobs, sometimes going hungry in between, before I got the hell out of there. But obviously I survived, and it was an adventure that showed me what I was capable of when the chips were down.

Before you do anything rash, there's two lots of Thinking to be done. First is the one I've already mentioned: prime yourself about thinking how good it's going to feel. The other is to be ruthlessly honest about who you are and what you can do. If you keep working on these ideas, it will begin to fall into place.

If all you can think of is what might go wrong, or keep thinking defeatist thoughts about yourself, you'll never get there. There must be loads of jobs in a big place like Istanbul, including loads of fill-in jobs such as bartending or cleaning while you keep looking for what you want.

It's the only way forward, desperate. Thoughts and actions.
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Postby desperate788 » Mon Dec 03, 2018 8:02 am

I'm so unmotivated and lethargic. Leaving current job before finding a new one isn't a good idea. It's very hard to find a job I may end up with no money at my mother's house. But living in istanbul close to my mother would be great indeed.
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Postby Candid » Mon Dec 03, 2018 8:28 am

desperate788 wrote:I'm so unmotivated and lethargic.


If you really are unmotivated, it means your current situation is comfortable for you. In that case you might as well stay where you are.

Leaving current job before finding a new one isn't a good idea.


So I've been told. A lot depends on whether you consider yourself a valuable employee or a time-server. Thinking the way you do about yourself and your life wouldn't impress any potential employer. What you have going for you is that you've stuck to this job you hate, for years now. You've shown up, done the work, not caused any major disasters and not been fired. It's just that employers expect more these days. They want real enthusiasm for whatever it is their company does. If you can't get fired up, you'll be in the tax office until you're too old to do it any more.

It's very hard to find a job...


In Istanbul??? I don't believe you. But if you have that belief, you'll make it true. There are thousands of unskilled jobs in any major city. Thing is, you need to be rather more energetic than you are, to find them.

I do understand you're no longer considered young, you've got comfortable with your present salary, and there are thousands of younger men keen for new experiences. It isn't that it's hard to find a job, it's that you need to believe in yourself before any employer will consider you... except for the most menial and poorly paid work. And almost all of your posts here show that you think of yourself as hopeless, miserable, doomed.

I've often quoted Louise Hay to you. If you're unhappy, you can try to change the rest of the world and you'll die trying. The world won't change for you. So Louise's first advice to unhappy people is that you must be willing to change.

Are you willing to change, desperate? Because if not, in 10 years, 20 years, 30 years time you'll still be lonely, frustrated, thinking about all the things you could have been and done... but you preferred to keep telling anyone who'd listen how impossible life is for you.
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#507

Postby desperate788 » Mon Dec 03, 2018 8:37 am

Getting hinted what I have done so far it's obvious that I ll regret from my life when I got old. Just don't have the push to do things I want to do live the life I want to live. Maybe it's brain chemistry my brains motivation function damaged.
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#508

Postby desperate788 » Mon Dec 03, 2018 8:40 am

I'm in such a lethargy that even talking to people is a struggle.
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Postby desperate788 » Mon Dec 03, 2018 8:41 am

Lethargy and anxiety
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