by SparkleFly12 » Mon Nov 11, 2019 7:44 pm
@thedford, yeah I too was really thankful when I first found this thread. Im surprised more places dont talk about this. Im almost at 9 months now; and I am spotty; some days libido is perfect and others it is 50% (and I have mild ED). From months 1-6, it was at 0; and I couldnt get hard at all when with my gf.
@Ineedhelpp it sounds exactly like weed withdrawal / PAWS. Started a couple weeks after quitting for me too.
I was in the same boat as you - couldnt stand it - and I went a step ahead and got meds for it. There are a ton of cheaper options now since Viagra doesnt have a monopoly anymore. I bought from an overseas online pharmacy. the meds worked - they get you hard - but its not the same. Because the problem isnt just getting hard, its having a sex drive. So I would get hard and be bored while having sex; waiting for it to be over. Orgasming is not that great, or really any good at all. Basically you are not really into it, even though you *want* to be
Now, at almost 9 months my drive is never 0, so meds do give me that little boost i need to have decent sex. But it hasnt been till recently (on days where my libido isnt low) that I really feel like sex is what it used to be; and something I actually look forward to like I used to.
Now the strange/frustrating thing is that I have been able to get hard even on my lowest days; but only with porn. Masturbating still wasnt that great, and I wasnt that "into" it but it was possible. That made the problem a lot harder to attribute to weed withdrawal. I just wasnt able to be turned on from body contact; being touched just doesnt make you imagine and desire like it normally does. Its really weird but yes, when you say "Even with a sexy girl naked next to me my erection was still pathetic" that rings very true to me.
The only solution is time, unfortunately.