The Stories always have happy endings

Postby 13%battery » Sun Feb 18, 2018 11:13 am

I don't even know what to say.
Honestly I don't know what I want to get from this, either, but I guess anything is worth a shot.

So I don't know if I have depression. I tell myself that everyone gets sad and that "I'm fine" but I don't know how true that is anymore.
I have no friends. Everyone seems to have left me. My family have other things on their mind and only care about me when I am having a mental breakdown, and I suspect that is just to get me to shut up. So, I don't know. I just don't know anymore. I read a lot of books, and I listen to music and watch TV shows... it is all unrealistic, I know, but I also know a lot of people and a lot of ex-friends that have happy endings, too... so why can't it be me? Why do I have to be sad and alone?
I just don't understand what I did wrong, what I did to deserve this.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sun Feb 18, 2018 5:13 pm

13%battery wrote:I have no friends. I read a lot of books, and I listen to music and watch TV shows...


Why do I have to be sad and alone?
I just don't understand what I did wrong, what I did to deserve this.


I’m confused.

You read books. How does that make friends?
You listen to music. How does that make friends?
You watch TV shows. How does that make friends?

These are activities a person does alone. So why would you not then be alone? It makes sense to me. That doesn’t make sense to you? You think these activities result in other than being alone?

It is like a farmer spending all his time planting corn and when corn grows asking, “What did I do to deserve this corn?” That would be confusing, right? You would think the farmer was confused. It is obvious why he deserves the corn...he spent all his time planting corn.

If you don’t want to be alone, if you want friends, you make them. It requires effort. It requires you spend time cultivating friendships. Is this what you don’t understand?
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Postby 13%battery » Sun Feb 18, 2018 9:01 pm

You read books. How does that make friends?
You listen to music. How does that make friends?
You watch TV shows. How does that make friends?

That is silly. One doesn't have to be trying to make friends at every second of every day, I can do other things. I had friends but then I moved schools and I made a new friend who stopped being my friend when I told her how I was feeling.
So please don't assume things, thanks.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sun Feb 18, 2018 9:16 pm

13%battery wrote:You read books. How does that make friends?
You listen to music. How does that make friends?
You watch TV shows. How does that make friends?

That is silly.


I agree. It is very silly indeed. The same as it is silly for our farmer to not understand why he deserves corn when he planted corn. Pretty silly.

One doesn't have to be trying to make friends at every second of every day, I can do other things. I had friends but then I moved schools and I made a new friend who stopped being my friend when I told her how I was feeling.


I never said you need to try and make friends every second of every day. I'm simply confused, because you said you are alone and didn't understand. How can you not understand? What don't you understand about how a person ends up alone? Or what don't you understand about how you stop being alone?

So please don't assume things, thanks.


It is a forum. I go off the limited information you provide. You provided no information other than some odd reference to doing activities that have nothing to do with making friends and then stating you don't understand why you are alone.

So I misunderstood? You do understand why you are alone? You do know how to make friends?
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