Child sexual experimentation

Postby Anonymous02 » Fri Mar 09, 2018 9:17 pm

I feel discused and guilty for somthing i did as a child, at the age of 11/12 years old, i would never do anything like this now but i feel guilty for what happened, im a 15 year old girl now... and it has suddenly hit me now causing me to have opsessive guilt to a point its making me physical sick and left not knowing what to do with my self and feeling no purpose to live because of this, anyway... when i was 11/12 my little sister was 2/3 years old, i didnt touch her parts or force her into anything but i dry humped her leg whilst she was next to me i also did the same thing to my 5 year old cousin, dry humped his leg... Have i done somthing bad? Am i evil? Please someone help.
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Postby Anonymous02 » Fri Mar 09, 2018 9:20 pm

Plus i done this only once.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Fri Mar 09, 2018 10:22 pm

A child being confused about hormones flooding their body as evil? NO!!! That’s called nature. It’s puberty.

Don’t get me wrong, I understand we are raised to make distinctions between “right” and “wrong”. You recognize it wasn’t a good idea, you recognize it is something where you could have made a better decision. But evil?

Your young, so I understand that you don’t yet grasp what evil actually means. Sure, you have the Internet, so you can view some atrocities and so on, but even then you can’t fathom evil. If you were able...if you had the capacity to understand what evil actually is, then you would recognize that in no way shape or form have your actions come anywhere remotely close to being evil.

Move forward in life. It is very natural when children reach puberty to dry hump things. Next time you dry hump, pick something different. Learn how to healthy educate yourself about sexuality. Don’t be embarrassed buy it.
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Postby Anonymous02 » Fri Mar 09, 2018 11:42 pm

Thank you! Plus i dont do it anymore it was somthing i done when i was younger, but im not a bad person because of that am i?
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Postby Imely » Sat Mar 10, 2018 8:39 am

I can't see anything wrong in it that makes you evil dear. it is natural. Most tend to do it. You aren't alone dear. just live the way you would love to live and never ever pay heed to anyone who promotes that such things make you evil..
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Postby Anonymous02 » Sat Mar 10, 2018 5:47 pm

Thank you so much! Makes me feel better
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Postby Anonymous02 » Sat Mar 10, 2018 11:54 pm

Now the only thing I’m worried is if they remember it and then tell my parents and then they might think it’s weird or they might think over done something strange or wrong.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sun Mar 11, 2018 12:20 am

Anonymous02 wrote:Now the only thing I’m worried ...


Well, that’s tough. That’s one good reason that you don’t do things you shouldn’t do. Your behaviors, grinding on young children, don’t make you bad or evil. Yet understandably, you have a pretty good idea that you shouldn’t have done it and that brings you into this forum. You know that grinding was a less than good behavior. You know it was a behavior you should not have done.

Now you’re worried. Okay...what do you want to hear? Not to worry? No. That is life. That is what happens when any of us do things we believe we shouldn’t have done. That’s the penance, the regret that we all pay in life. And it is part of life. There is no magic cure, there are no special words of comfort that makes worry go away.

IF it was to ever come up, which is highly, highly unlikely...you simply apologize and move forward. Most likely they are clueless and don’t realize anything was out of sorts. Therefore, don’t go making an issue out of something that isn’t an issue for them.

The only reason you would make an issue of it is to get attention for yourself or try to deal with your own feelings. That would just be that much more wrong, dragging innocent children that have no idea just so you can resolve your feelings.

Currently it is only an issue for you, and it should stay that way. That’s your slight burden to carry. Don’t beat yourself up too much. As I have pointed out...as well as others...your behaviors are not uncommon. It is fairly normal to explore when we reach puberty. You are not the only teen to have behaved in a way where they experience some regret.

You need to forgive yourself and move on. Endeavor from this point forward to behave in ways that are healthy and true to your values. If you can’t seem to forgive yourself, seek a confidential 3rd party to confide or confess to. You’ve in some ways already confessed and been forgiven in here. Multiple people have told you that it’s okay, to put it behind you.
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Postby Anonymous02 » Sun Mar 11, 2018 7:18 pm

Ok thank you, i didn’t realise it was bad then and then it came to mind recently and I started to think about it more and became sick with guilt because of it.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sun Mar 11, 2018 7:37 pm

As stated, if you were unaware then you have nothing to feel guilty about. There is a difference between guilt and regret.

If I was unaware that if a dog eats chocolate it will die and I gave a dog chocolate, I will feel regret, not guilt. I didn’t intentionally kill the dog. I would feel horrible. I would wonder why I didn’t know that. I would feel remorse and regret, but guilt? No. I’m not going to feel guilty when I know in my heart I did nothing to intentionally hurt the dog. I would forgive myself and endeavor never to make that same mistake.
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Postby Anonymous02 » Sun Mar 11, 2018 8:14 pm

Ok thank you for your help. I do feel much more better about all of this.
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Postby Anonymous02 » Sun Mar 11, 2018 10:14 pm

So if I didn’t know what the outcome can result as then that can’t make me guilty?
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Postby Anonymous02 » Sun Mar 11, 2018 11:17 pm

I was also feeling embarrassed straight after I done it and I didn’t want my parents to know, this is another thought that has just flew threw my mind? I feel so confused and now I’m thinking... maybe I was partly aware? Did I began to think after... I was wrong for doing what I done? Is that bad? But I was unsure of the outcome and didn’t realise I could of hurt someone. But after what had happened happened I forgot about it until now so does that then mean I didn’t think it was that wrong at the time? I’m literally questioning everything. I just hope known of this makes me a bad person. I believe I am not a bad person.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sun Mar 11, 2018 11:37 pm

Okay...well this is my last post in here. I can’t keep repeating myself, telling you repeatedly that you’re not a bad person just for you to ignore me. It is like beating my head against a wall. It would be pretty dumb of me to continue to do that. So...

You are not a bad person. You are not a bad person. You are not a bad person. You are not a bad person. You are not a bad person. You are not a bad person. You are not a bad person. You are not a bad person.

Now when you come back once again to ask the same question over again, you have my answer repeated to you another eight times. I wish you the best of luck.

Maybe someone else can come along to continue to validate you repeatedly.
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Postby Anonymous02 » Mon Mar 12, 2018 4:45 am

I’m sorry, thank you
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