maladaptive dreaming

Postby unknown-user » Mon Apr 09, 2018 3:00 pm

I've posted about this briefly but I wanted to go into more depth.. I think I have MD.. but I don't know what to do or if I can be helped... If you can give advice then I welcome it with open arms.

I'm a 17 year old girl, who also has depression and anxiety.. I am fully aware of what I do and think it's childish but it is the only thing I enjoy doing now.. I have lost interest in everything else.

Most of my day is spent doing this.. literally hours.. I can't find the will to do anything else.. and I have to get ready for it - dress in clothes to go out, do my hair, etc.. or I feel like my characters will judge me it's stupid I know.

I mainly do it in my room but have done it out and about plenty of times...
I act out certain mannerisms and scenes but it's the same three scenes over and over again.. It's always with famous idols and I also pretend that sometimes they like me..



This was some of the checklist given on a certain website.. stating if you have more then half you're likely to have MD;

I have lost hours or days at a time to fantasizing, sometimes without even realizing it.
Yes.. I spend most of my days fantasizing!

Sometimes I can’t watch movies, read books, or listen to music without slipping into a daydream.
Typically it will be music as the characters are typically famous idols

My fantasies cause me to skip meals, lose sleep, or neglect other basic needs.
I can't sleep until I have successfully finished my 'dream' meaning i've gone to bed at 3am just because I was talking to 'someone' for ages

I act out my daydreams through talking, singing, dancing, etc.
I always pretend I'm a celeb talking and dancing with other celebs.. I have actual convos and pretend they're talking to me and I tend to pretend some like me

I make facial expressions when I fantasize.
I pretend someone said something or confessed and I act shocked or surprised or embarrased

I engage in repetitive movements (rocking, pacing, etc.) during an episode.
Dancing, it's always dancing or pacing

My fantasies make it difficult to focus on my job or schoolwork.
I have to finish a fantasy or start one before feeling happy to do something else

I fail to complete tasks or miss important deadlines because I can’t stop daydreaming.

I am emotionally invested in my imaginary characters and storylines.

I lose time with friends or family to my daydreaming.

I would much rather stay in my room and dream then go out with friends.. I've said I'm busy to my friend before so I could finish my fantasy with this character




I don't know what to do..
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Apr 09, 2018 3:28 pm

unknown-user wrote:...I don't know what to do..


All of the symptoms revolve around the luxury of free time. Solution, reduce this luxury.

It is not easy for us to acknowledge having such luxury. It is even harder for us to give up our luxuries. In your case, acknowledging and then reducing the amount of free time you have to spend hours on end fantasizing is tough. It is uncomfortable and can create a sense of fear.

Regardless, that is the path. It is the only path. There is no maintaining your luxury yet addressing the problem.

You can enlist the help of others to help reduce your free time.

As you make new commitments and as you engage in new activities that consume your time, the MD will lessen and eventually stop. You simply won’t have time for MD when you are focused on other things.
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Postby unknown-user » Mon Apr 09, 2018 3:31 pm

:) Thank you for the advice!
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sun Nov 17, 2019 2:16 pm

14_fantasy wrote:... but I’m scared to tell my parents I know they will find out eventually but I’m scared to tell them. What if they don’t support me? What if they tell me he isn’t real?

...show everyone my power!

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There is the positive side. You have a creative ability. This can be powerful when it is used in a productive way.

Think of super or mythical heroes. These serve a purpose. They provide a sort of ideal. We use these mythical archetypes to teach or model behaviors. We use them to promote how one should act.

The negative side is when we use imaginary friends to escape from reality or runaway from our fears. You struggle with this.

You want to show everyone your power and have tons of social media. This means you want actual real world friendships. You fear...you run from your parents. That is trying to escape from reality. Your friend is not real. You know your friend is not real, so stop running from this truth.

Find the right balance.
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