Will miss my mother

Postby desperate788 » Mon May 14, 2018 7:12 am

My mother is leaving tomorrow I will miss her..my concern is she may cause harm to my mental health that's why I dont politely request her to stay longer. .I don't want to risk my health. What say you?
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Postby Candid » Mon May 14, 2018 9:52 am

Is she going away for good, or does she plan to come back?
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Postby desperate788 » Mon May 14, 2018 9:58 am

She plans to come back after summer
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Postby Candid » Mon May 14, 2018 10:05 am

That's a long time. Is your father with her?
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Postby desperate788 » Mon May 14, 2018 10:11 am

Yes my father said to be very ill she deals with him. But I think in fact my father is role playing sick. I worry if he hurts my mother..
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Postby Candid » Tue May 15, 2018 7:48 am

What makes you think he might be hurting her?
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Postby desperate788 » Tue May 15, 2018 7:53 am

First I like my mother too much just to distress me he can hurt her also if I recover mentally I can make my mother less harmful even can live with her as he is sick with me being happy he may hurt her to make me upset..
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Postby Candid » Tue May 15, 2018 8:10 am

Desperate, you always find things to worry about. Confirmed worriers such as you are will always find plenty to fix their minds on. I can't stop you worrying about every detail of your life, and it doesn't look as though you can do that yourself, so I hope your therapist will see the pattern and know how to treat it.

You've said enough here over the years to convince me your father is a very unpleasant man. Thing is, your mother chose him -- and she continues to choose him every day, or she would have left him long ago. Wouldn't she? She surely is well aware that you can't stand being anywhere near him.

I think you have a sister. Is that right? If you do have a brother or sister, have you talked about what your father could be doing to your mother when no one's looking? Does your mother complain about the way he treats her?

You can't make decisions for other people, you know. If he chooses to hurt her, you can't stop him. If she chooses to stay with him, you can't change her mind.

I know what it's like to worry. If you can do something about it, you must do it. If you can't, you have to find something else to occupy your mind -- preferably something you can enjoy.
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Postby desperate788 » Tue May 15, 2018 8:17 am

I don't think my mother is pleasant with dealing him she says she is fed up but he exploits the goodness in her thats why she doesn't like him I would like to save her from him but what can I do you know my situation I'm myself so sick..is there something I can do to save her from him? I may request her to stay with me but it's obvious they will create fake reasons for her to return
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Postby desperate788 » Tue May 15, 2018 8:18 am

Isn't pleasant..A typo.
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Postby Candid » Tue May 15, 2018 8:33 am

desperate788 wrote:is there something I can do to save her from him?


Not until she asks. All you can do is make it clear to her that she can live with you if she wants to.
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Postby desperate788 » Tue May 15, 2018 8:34 am

Ok thanks..
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Postby desperate788 » Tue May 15, 2018 2:57 pm

My mother left..I should protect her from him..I'm her son..but I can't even protect myself..
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Postby Candid » Wed May 16, 2018 7:59 am

It isn't up to you to protect your mother unless she says she's in trouble. I don't know what you need to protect yourself from, unless it's your own mind. Are you under attack?
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Postby desperate788 » Wed May 16, 2018 9:00 am

My father harms my mother sneaky she doesn't notice..
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