My gf kissed another girl

Postby ArmiX » Sun May 20, 2018 1:14 pm

Hello,I am in a relationship with this girl for 6 months and she told me that 2 months ago she kissed another girl.She was in tears while she was telling me this and that she didnt like it at all.The sad part is that in these months I kept asking her whether she did something like this or not and she swore she did not.How am I supposed to trust her again?(given the fact that she lied to me all this time)even though she promised that this was the biggest mistake in her life and that she wont do it again?should I consider breaking up with her?how can I trust her again?what if she s not 100% straight?I dont even trust her about the thing that she didnt like that,help?

Note:plz dont come up with threesome cuz it will make me more depressed than I am now
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sun May 20, 2018 1:45 pm

You posted back in January about this same relationship and how you were not certain of your feelings. It has now been several more months and you don't know what to do with her breaking your trust and having an intimate interaction with another girl.

End the relationship.

You have both made mistakes in this relationship which is perfectly normal. What is important is what you both learn from the relationship so that in the future you don't repeat the same mistakes.
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Postby ArmiX » Sun May 20, 2018 1:52 pm

Plz don't link with the past,I was uncertain at the beginnig of the relationship,that s normal,I want an a straight answer for this question(this is our first serious relationship so don't mention that we should break up for our first mistakes
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Postby Candid » Sun May 20, 2018 1:59 pm

So, you don't want to break up.

What was your question again?
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Postby ArmiX » Sun May 20, 2018 2:06 pm

Of course I dont want that,I love her,I ve posted like 4 questions and I d also want to see what would others do,that s why I asked that one especially
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Postby Candid » Sun May 20, 2018 2:18 pm

ArmiX wrote:How am I supposed to trust her again?


You either write it off or you don't. It's up to you.

should I consider breaking up with her?


Clearly you are considering it. Then you get offended because Richard suggests you do just that.

what if she s not 100% straight?


What if? and Who cares? You're both very young. That's the time to experiment, before you each get serious about life. Both of you will make far bigger mistakes than this before you're done.

So she kissed another girl. That's her right and her privilege, nothing to do with you, whether she liked it or not.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sun May 20, 2018 2:41 pm

ArmiX wrote: I want an a straight answer for this question...


Don't tell you to break up, don't tell you to have a threesome...don't give you any answer you don't want to hear or don't like.

Okay, what answer would you like to hear?

You are in a short term (6 month) relationship with a girl that violated your trust and was intimate with another person. Most people understand implicitly that infidelity of any kind is a dealbreaker, but you don't want to hear that.

So, tell me what you do want to hear.
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Postby ArmiX » Sun May 20, 2018 2:58 pm

I would like to hear support bcz I dont want to leave her just like that,how can I get over this situation?
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Postby Candid » Sun May 20, 2018 3:01 pm

Okay, so you're not going to leave her. I don't think one partner kissing someone else warrants breaking up. You say you love this girl, so stick with her.

How do you get over it? You declare it over, and that's it. Never mention it again.
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Postby tokeless » Sun May 20, 2018 9:15 pm

ArmiX wrote:Of course I dont want that,I love her,I ve posted like 4 questions and I d also want to see what would others do,that s why I asked that one especially


I thought you said don't mention a threesome? Seriously, just make a decision for yourself. Either forgive/ forget or do her a favour and end the relationship if you can't trust her again.
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