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#120

Postby Guess what? » Sat Aug 11, 2018 2:11 pm

Honestly I wasted 22 years of my life, and now, yes, I'm woking on it but sure I don't want to waste more of it by staying at home. Honestly I don't see how reading can refresh my mind about taking pictures.
Just for learning how to think? Ok, but there wasn't even a "thinking" thing (except for the pics) mostly an experience lack.

Well, I swear that next time I will be more calm. The fact that I'm stressed and frustrated isn't new, looks like it is because i have hormonal problem, but i'm not sure.

I don't know what "nincompoops" means. xD
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#121

Postby quietvoice » Sat Aug 11, 2018 2:27 pm

Guess what? wrote:Honestly I wasted 22 years of my life, and now, yes, I'm woking on it but sure I don't want to waste more of it by staying at home. Honestly I don't see how reading can refresh my mind about taking pictures.
Just for learning how to think? Ok, but there wasn't even a "thinking" thing (except for the pics) mostly an experience lack.

Well, I swear that next time I will be more calm. The fact that I'm stressed and frustrated isn't new, looks like it is because i have hormonal problem, but i'm not sure.

I don't know what "nincompoops" means. xD

To each his own, I suppose. Those who have ears to hear . . .

Google search to define nincompoop.
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Postby Guess what? » Sat Aug 11, 2018 5:17 pm

Never heard that not socializing is the answer when you feel rejected by the society.
Not that the situation was better before meeting them.

Thanks for the meaning of the word
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#123

Postby Leo Volont » Sat Aug 11, 2018 10:51 pm

Guess what? wrote:Hi Leo.


Once you said the opposite. That I think to much on myself.
But well, I was just unprepared, I didn't even know well how things should go in that case. And it could be worst, I could not take her car license plate or saying yes when she wanted to split up the fault



Hi Guess What,

Yes, you think emotionally about your fragile feelings and your offended sense of honor, that is, about everything that doesn't really matter. What I am referring to now is Survival Thinking, Practical Thinking, Social Thinking, Career Thinking. You focus so much on your own emotional reactions that you miss everything else that is going on. In a situation, such as the one you were in, you immediately got caught up in "the consequences are going to be terrible for me". Well, yeah, and that would have been a great place to start, but you stayed there. Your Work on your Anger Problem should have gotten you used to the idea of Damage Control. Bad Thing Happen. You can't freeze up. You have to take appropriate actions that can't wait. You did not ask yourself, or her "This is my first accident. What are we supposed to do now? I suppose we need to exchange information and take photos. Oh, by the way, my name is Guess What... pleased to meet you. I wish it were under better circumstances".

Oh, so your doctor has told you that it is healthy to not read books, go to classes, and try to better yourself, because it is best for your psychological development to waste your formative years running around with the worse set of lowlifes and scags in the Nation. Come on, Guess What, you're not talking to a total idiot. My assumption here is that you are twisting what your Doctor told you in some self-justifying way. You're doctor did not say "I think you should spend all your available time with drunks and sluts because their influence upon you will make you psychologically well adjusted.". If you were to take up reading and further your education, that in itself would lead to social contacts that would not be dragging you down into the gutter. You know, Guess What, the worst has not happened to you yet. Your 'friends' or their friends (who hear all the wonderful things your 'friends' say about you) could easily cut your throat in an ally for the money to buy a round of drinks at the next club. that kind of thing does not happen at Book Clubs.
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Postby Leo Volont » Sat Aug 11, 2018 11:32 pm

Guess what? wrote:Never heard that not socializing is the answer when you feel rejected by the society.
Not that the situation was better before meeting them.

Thanks for the meaning of the word



Hi Guess What,

If you are being continuously rejected by Society, with failure after failure after failure, do you honestly believe that the solution to that is to keep repeating ad nauseam, hoping that by doing the same thing over and over again that the results will eventually change for you. Life does not work like that. Obviously you do not know how to socialize. You need to stay home and read because you need the time alone to think and reflect. If you just think and reflect with your own Mind, well, how has that been working for you? Generally speaking, books are written by smart people. You need to read so many books by smart people that you begin to get a feeling for what it is to be smart yourself (when I was young, every University had a list of their '100 books to read before walking through the door', which few people ever did, but these are great lists for anybody who wants to self educate. For instance, I just did a short search and got http://als.lib.wi.us/Collegebound.html But I am sure your Country still has some of the finest Universities in the World. You should be able to search something up.) When you say you wasted 22 years, you are right. You did not receive an adequate education. You are intellectually stunted. For instance, take your reception of Quiet Voice's general life advice -- "What does that have to do with taking a photo?" You are so uneducated you can't even place in proper context what educated people are trying to tell you.

So, yes, while the finishing work of becoming Socially Well Adjusted is to go out and establish one's self in the best of all possible and appropriate Social Circles, you are clearly not ready for that. Heck, you are even being rejected by the scum of the earth. The lowlifes you run around with are the True Social Outcasts and they are outcasting you. Clearly you need to spend a few years educating yourself and preparing. And you keep forgetting or ignoring that you are still young. Remember, "Life begins at 40". Oh, Quiet Voice has a point about Meditation. If for no other reason, the people you meet at Yoga Classes and Meditation Groups are NOT lowlifes (or at least they are very discrete lowlifes... Oh, but be careful about not getting into a 'Cult'. How do you know it is a cult? Well, if you find yourself with your head shaved, wearing a robe that looks like an orange bed sheet, passing out flowers or pamphlets and asking for donations at an Airport, then its a 'Cult') .
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#125

Postby Guess what? » Sun Aug 12, 2018 3:17 pm

Hi Leo, I'm sorry for yesterday; I was in a bad mood. Mostly I have to say sorry to @Quietvoice

I know what Quietvoice meant. That maybe if I had an mental education, I would have not forget to doing pics.. but it is not that I forgot, mostly that I had no experience in that; really, doing pics was the last thing that came up in my mind, I didn't even know I could do that. So, now, if it will happen again (I hope It won't xD) I will be prepared.
Honestly it is like if i have to do the extreme every time; I mean, if i have to act bad I will be the worst scum in the world, and if I have to act good I will be really kind. I noticed this of me, i don't know why, but just to do an example; you see that when I disagree with you two, I simply post a reply where I say whanever I think. Another one could say "yeah yeah, ok thanks" and never shows themself again, while they may was doing the opposite. And maybe, if this accident happened months ago, I would have done everything to make suffer that girl. 'Cause I was really bitter and I didn't want to hope on anyone. Anyway for what I see, being gentle but still thinking to own back is seen as being a jerk. Actually it is normal doing like this, but people see this as a meaning of your being fake, moody, etc.

Just saying, at the end I wanna improve and it is in my interesting keep posting here. So, lowlifes that reject me means nothing. People accept who fits good with their life style, and for what I said one of them has no trouble to drag other people in the group. I met two of the girls that I have a chance with, thanks to them. Without them maybe I would have hanged on a rope. And hey, without them I would not even be here. So they have no problem without me, rather, I think I tired them with my old whines.
Oh yesterday I was in a bad mood and I drunk. Remembering your tip I tried to drink one every each other, but I don't know why (I don't even drink much) I was really drunk anyway. I lost my wallet (I found it , don't worry), I was pucking, and they cared about me, brought me home, and when I was talking with a girl about relationship, I mentioned once again that chick who I cried so much for.
Now I'm saying sorry, and thanks, to her; and sure I would say something about that chick; like that was alcohool that was talking for me, even 'cause I don't mind so much about her anymore. Well, in the end I remember I didn't say anything bad, just I was happy for her that found someone who f*ck her.

So I'm scared to lose opportuity if I stay at home. Life starts in 40, but youth is now, and I may don't even reach the 40. Anyway I don't go out so much; and so I don't understand why I can't read and apply on time what I learned.

Your 'friends' or their friends (who hear all the wonderful things your 'friends' say about you) could easily cut your throat in an ally for the money to buy a round of drinks at the next club. that kind of thing does not happen at Book Clubs.

Oh come on, they are not that kind of criminals.
And you can't say that a throat cutter don't like reading.
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#126

Postby Leo Volont » Sun Aug 12, 2018 11:48 pm

Good Morning Guess What,

Usually I am full of advise, but, without meaning to be dismissive, well, I really don't know what to say about any of that. If I think of anything I will let you know.
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Postby Guess what? » Mon Aug 13, 2018 8:05 am

Hi Leo.

I really appreciated your help, and anyway I'm lisening and practing what you said. I realize i'm kinda tiring, we are talking for pages after all.
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