Can't have an erection

Postby Guess what? » Sun Jun 10, 2018 3:08 pm

I'm virgin, over 20 years old, I had few occasions to have sex but I never could get hard.
What can this be?
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Postby quietvoice » Sun Jun 10, 2018 3:17 pm

Guess what? wrote:What can this be?

How's your diet?
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Postby Guess what? » Sun Jun 10, 2018 4:56 pm

I eat trash food sometimes. But basically right now is:

Breakfast: Orange Juice, Milk and coffee, banana and after 2 hours a biscuit with chocolate.

Lunch: Pasta, sometimes a sandwich, sometimes meat and an apple.

As a Snack: ice cream and yogurt

Dinner: Salad, and depend, sometimes meat, sometimes frozen foods, and an apple again. Once a week i eat sushi.

Plus I take walks for a couple of hours everyday if the weather is good. I'm not obese right now, but I was when i was youngster.
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Postby Cali-Detroit » Mon Jun 11, 2018 12:41 am

More meat, more cardio, more weights, or at least push-ups. At 20 even with not taking care of yourself, you should still be able to perform. Stop the porn. In my day we had only mags and vids, and couldn't indulge nearly as easily and with the variety that's now available. Plus we had to pay for that's shyte...lol! Get your head checked, depression is a real killer. Whatever issues you're having, sort them now and don't let up until you do. Life is short, don't waste time, trust me, I've been there and change comes from within. No one will care about you as much as you. It's all up to you, always. You can do this
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Postby Guess what? » Mon Jun 11, 2018 6:07 am

I hope so.
For depression i don't know. I heard people had wasted time and money with a psycologist.
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Postby Cali-Detroit » Mon Jun 11, 2018 6:58 am

Yes some people have. And some people changed their lives forever. It all depends, but you can't know until you try. Stuff doesn't just work itself out, that's a movie fallacy. Real life just drones on and nobody really pays attention to anyone but themselves. Try every fkn thing you can think of and three more that you hadn't. Don't expect anything and you'll never be disappointed. When some joy comes your way, it'll be a brilliant surprise. Embrace the harshness of it all, revel in it, and try to rise above it, if for even a moment. That's all you can do. The rest is gravy. Which of course is made from carcasses. And yet it's still fkn delicious...so, there you go. Peace
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Postby Guess what? » Mon Jun 11, 2018 10:28 am

Stop porn or playing with myself in general?

Fkn things?
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Postby quietvoice » Mon Jun 11, 2018 11:30 am

More meat,

LESS meat, or none at all! Get rid of the dairy products. Clean out your lymphatic system and things will be running smoother for you. Eat as many fresh, raw, fruits and some vegetables as you can fit into your diet while weaning off of all processed foods. Drink fresh, raw juices.

See on YouTube: John Rose, Robert Morse ND.
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Postby Guess what? » Mon Jun 11, 2018 4:36 pm

Ok so:

- Eating
Breakfast: Coffee, fruit, orange juice (mine are fresh and raw, I squeeze an orange), and biscuit while i working (i can't eat something big xD )
Lunch: Pasta and what? I eat bread and salami or ham sometimes, not meat then? I will not lack protein then? and apple
Snack: Another apple?
Dinner: Salad and what?

- No porn (jerking off yes?)

- Doing exercise (I will do push-ups and my walks) for cleaning out my lymphatic system. And drink much water.

Will this help? I have normal erection in normal situation. I have trouble just with girls.
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Postby Cali-Detroit » Mon Jun 11, 2018 5:17 pm

Ok so then it's not physical. That's a mental thing. Every dude can experience that, at any age. I think your inexperience and your general personality are making you anxious and nervous. And that can create issues. I've been with many women, but whenever it's someone new, it can be an issue. But only when my head's not right. One thing compounds on top of the other. Definitely cut the wanking back and the porn back. Don't have to quit, but moderation is good.

Eat what you want, but you should have protein and fruits and vegetables as opposed to sugar and cured meats (I love Genoa salami tho).

But really this does seem mental. I wish I'd not waited to get it sorted and that's why I'm advising you to do just that and try all the things and to be quick about it. Don't wasted even another year of your life unhappy.

Srsly tho, find a therapist and talk. You might go through 3 or 4 or more different people until you find someone your comfortable with, who you can click with. People go one time, or get locked in with the wrong person and say "Didn't work". It takes effort, but man, if you could see your life in 20 years with or without it, you'd know what I'm saying. Treat yourself right
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Postby Guess what? » Mon Jun 11, 2018 8:19 pm

Uff it is not so easy.
It is not that I see myself worthless. It is that people treated me always like i'm worthless.
Anyway the chance to have sex have been always poor. It is not even that if I can solve this, then i will be happy soon.

mostly I know about the Avoidant Personality Disorder, that have many effects (that I recognize in me) and the erection issue, even 'cause i am not even happy of my size. Just when I said here that maybe i can have it, somebody accuse me to "create" problem from nothing.
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Postby Cali-Detroit » Mon Jun 11, 2018 8:51 pm

No definitely not from nothing. It's real. You need a doctor for sure
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Postby Guess what? » Mon Jun 11, 2018 9:04 pm

I will go to my doctor tomorrow and listen what he will say.
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Postby Cali-Detroit » Mon Jun 11, 2018 10:17 pm

Yes just be honest about everything and find a path. Good luck
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Postby Guess what? » Tue Jun 12, 2018 6:07 am

I'm scared from psycho drugs. They aren't good and can destroy your body.
Then if i become uglier i will not have sex flr sure.
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