pathological liar wife

Postby Mr.sid » Tue Jun 19, 2018 2:32 am

Hello everyone,
Warning this post is full of drama .

Thanks for having me on this forum amd making a place for people to find solution or just talk about their life and ups and downs.

Im writing this post because im living a real nightmare with my wife, i been married for three years and moved and start live with for two years so far, when i first moved to her place two weeks later went out early for job hunting she came out after me and throw my stuff at the door, i was shocked but then thoughy maybe she need my attention , later on problems started because wanted me to get her new phone but wasnt excited about it , so she started fighting me till the point where she broke a vase on my head infront of her, didnt report the incident , then i got her the phone at the end i thought im buying peace  how fool iam but wasnt paying her bills now my credit is f***ed, after that we had our ups and downs and her from time to te calling police just because we arguing, then when i started job with big compaby she became jealouse and started again with her non sense like you changed you have attitude you think you are better than me, but i was just ignoring her, then in summer 2017 i started working overnight shift so i was sleeping in mornings, she didnt like that and always finding excuses to wake me up and when i dont call me lazy , one day she woke me up to vaccum i refused said i was working whole night let me rest, started insulting me when throew back insults lost her mind wanted to kick me out of the house i refused so she grabed wooden stick beaten me with it and with pressure cooker cover i had several bruises in my body o went ro report it, police arrested her after they released her was blaming and i put her on jail and destroyed her life, and if i just left that wouldnt happen and that her charechter saying and thats how she is never said sorry, felt bad for that , i wrote letter to court that i dont want to press charges and i forgive her and still love her, after back and forth court droped charges, on that point i started thinking about if i could live my whole life with someone like that, so i decided to leave her, when i did that she went into my emails and then accused im having an affair with my ex, started insulting my female friends on social media after that went  to hospital for nervous breakdown and then started sending texts pretending to be nurse from her phone and telling me that she died i freakd out went to hospital  she was sick and alive and nurse wrote on her file husband left her, it was whole drama and scene, so i felt sad and pity to see her in that situation, stayed with and then went back together , we lived three calm months , then she decided to visot her family, she left for two weeks and she came back she was very good mood happier, she stayed two weeks and then decided to go back i thought thats ok if she feel good and happier maybe thats what she needed time with family, but then she kept changing her return date every two weeks stay longer then told me she lost her documents because of that she staying longer , i had my doubts because i know she can make up things also always heard voice of a guy in background but i thought maybe just a friend or her relatives, so didnt bother to ask her, then one day she texted me while she was away how she is aware that i go out with male friend and that guy aint straight and she thinks im gay, i was laughing i thought it was a joke but she kept repeating it , i told her he is a friend of mine,
She finally came back she brought with her attitude and rage problems and arguments everyday telling me im gay and she has video of me having sex with man, when asked about video, because i know that im not gay and i know i didnt have sex for four months which mean no video, when i asked her for that she started screaming and banging whole drama, for it was like im challenging her, so wanted to know why she wanted to accuse me of that , i went on her phone and i saw that she is in relationship with some other man and slept with him first time when she left, i didnt do anything about it i controlled My emotions but when she asked me again if i was gay i lied to  her yes and i started my relationship three months ago, she was sympathic with me in a weird way, then told i should have told from before and that i can be her friend and that she will be there for me and she wont tell anyone lol, two days later   she did the complete opposit and told her friends and family even my parents and was insulting me call me fag lol and telling me that i fooled her and pretended to be straight , now i got copy of pictures and video im thinking if i tell her that im not gay and confront her with the proofs .
Do you think its worth it
To this point im 1000/100 i dont want to be with her anymore just scared from her because i have seen what she is capable of, what would you do if you were me ?
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Postby quietvoice » Tue Jun 19, 2018 12:50 pm

what would you do if you were me ?

Step outside your own shoes for a moment. What do you think any sane person would do?
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Postby Mr.sid » Tue Jun 19, 2018 11:08 pm

Thats smart question answer but dealing with someone who lie alot would it be worth it to seat and talk and explain ?
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Postby quietvoice » Tue Jun 19, 2018 11:20 pm

Mr.sid wrote:Thats smart question answer but dealing with someone who lie alot would it be worth it to seat and talk and explain ?

Have you not had enough experience with this person to know that you need to just Get Out Of There Now?

What are you hoping to accomplish by talking with her?
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Postby Candid » Fri Jun 22, 2018 7:24 am

Mr.sid wrote:Do you think its worth it


Depends what it is. You get something out of this relationship. That is it.

You don't have to tell us what it is for you. I can think of only three possibilities:
1) The sex is mindblowing, when you get it;
2) You need to have someone in your life, no matter how bad things are; or
3) You don't want to admit you've made a truly ghastly mistake.

For me, nothing would be worth living with constant abuse. Love is the best reason for sticking around, but from the sound of things you and your wife don't love each other at all. So why are you still there? Just something to think about.
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