Had hysterectomy and now depression

Postby saltycandy13 » Wed Jul 04, 2018 7:05 am

I had a hysterectomy January 19, 2018. I was told I had uterine cancer stage 1a. They removed my uterus, my cervix, my fallopian tubes and my ovaries.
Since then I am not myself. I suffer from debilitating hot flashes, headaches, nervousness, depression, heat intolerance, and feel sick to my stomach when I have to look at my scars on my abdomen. I have six scars in total. They are so deep and red. I hate them. They depress me more.

People are not kind to me. I have relatives that pretend they don't know the Hell I have been through. No respect at all. And a husband that keeps telling me I'm going to be okay, but I am not. I cry a lot. And I am so HOT and sweaty. Also, they found thyroid disease too. My thyroid is enlarged and I have Graves' Disease. It was in remission for years but now because my body they say went into shock with this horrible surgery, it has activtated it again.

I feel suicidal at times and wish I was not here.
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Postby quietvoice » Wed Jul 04, 2018 11:54 am

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Please, please !! Visit the following YouTube channel and take heed of the good person's words. He's helped SO many.

Robert Morse ND

Also visit John Rose.
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Postby DrPsychFeels » Sun Jul 08, 2018 4:01 pm

Go to the doctor and tell him what's wrong.

I think what you're going through is common and hormone replacement therapy can help.
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Postby saltycandy13 » Sun Jul 08, 2018 4:59 pm

you're not reading it right. I had CANCER they don't allow HRT anymore!
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Jul 09, 2018 2:21 pm

saltycandy13 wrote:People are not kind to me. I have relatives that pretend they don't know the Hell I have been through. No respect at all. And a husband that keeps telling me I'm going to be okay, but I am not.


What is not kind or disrespectful about your husband telling you that you will be okay?

What is your expectation of relatives? If I had survived cancer, my expectation would be my relatives might send a "get well" card. Past sending me their well wishes for a speedy recovery, my expectation is that the next time my relatives visited they might reinforce the well wishes with a short, 60 second "glad you are okay" conversation. What else are relatives suppose to do? Are they to treat me forever different because I survived cancer?

I guess it is not clear how relatives or your husband are being unkind or disrespectful. Do you expect to be treated differently now that you are a cancer survivor?
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Postby saltycandy13 » Mon Jul 09, 2018 3:13 pm

who said I survived> and yes, I want to be respected. When they visit my mother, they should ask if I'm still alive. I don't think you have a heart. You should BE in my boat I'm quitting this place. You people have about much sympathy as Donald Trump who is an a**hole
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Postby saltycandy13 » Mon Jul 09, 2018 3:20 pm

and further more, people like you have no idea what we women go through. What give you the right to judge? Only God can judge. I came here for support, I can see there is none. I get more support from people that I know from buying cosmetics. You wait. I HOPE YOU GET CANCER. LET'S SEE HOW YOU ACT. I have a friend that is going through chemotherapy right now, her husband left her. She is alone except for friends like me. She lost all her hair. She is stage 4~ So you HAVE NO IDEA WHAT IT IS LIKE. YOU CAN GO TO HELL. I HATE PEOPLE THAT ARE UNCARING AND UNFEELING. IN THE END GOD WILL JUDGE YOU AND YOU WILL GO TO HELL, I GUARANTEE IT. SO I AM DONE WITH YOU ASSHOLES.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Jul 09, 2018 3:56 pm

saltycandy13 wrote: I came here for support, I can see there is none.


Again, what do you consider support? What are your expectations?

I recognize you are angry, but I don't understand why. A forum is full of strangers. What do you expect? What would make you satisfied?

For instance, the absolute best I can offer is to say that it is unfortunate that you faced cancer and are facing a difficult recover. I can wish you well. And I do. I don't wish you any ill will. I wish you a speedy and successful recovery.

I think that is a reasonable expectation. I don't think any member of this forum would disrespect you or treat you unkind. I think any member would wish you a speedy and successful recovery.

The well wishers of strangers in an online forum are not...or should not be the in anyway comparable to the actions of your husband, your relatives, or your local community.

And this is why I'm not sure what you expect?
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Postby quietvoice » Mon Jul 09, 2018 5:34 pm

saltycandy13 wrote: I HOPE YOU GET CANCER.

Let's see. Most people, even your average doctor, do not know that "cancer" is a result of lifestyle choices. The problem is that most people do not know the right way to live, and therefore, we, as a culture, are suffering debilitating bodily ills without the knowledge of how to get out of it . . .

except that there are way-showers among us, and I provided to you access to two of them. It's up to you. Here's your chance to take a Hero's Journey.
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Postby Opinion » Sun Aug 19, 2018 7:21 am

Saltycandy13 - I am so incredibly sorry for what you have gone through, and I can't believe everything that you have been through physically. You have really been through the ringer. My heart really goes out to you :( . I have also had a hysterectomy back in 2010, and it really changed me. Unfortunately when our sex organs are removed we become chemically altered/changed! We no longer have the hormones that regulate and protect our heart, lungs, brain, etc. This even affects our personality, and many women experience personality change, and just do not feel like the same person they were before. Having your ovaries removed is considered female castration, and has devastating affects on women. Hysterectomy also drastically changes our physical appearance. When the powerful/supporting uterine ligaments are cut, and the uterus is removed, our ribs gradually fall/descend down to our hips giving our abdomen a shortened thickened appearance. This effect usually happens within 2 years after the surgery. I also have chronic back pain, because my spine is also compressed from the surgery, because I no longer have my uterus supporting my spine, and keeping everything in place. I was recently at the chiropractor, and he told me that none of my bones are where they are supposed to be in my lower and upper back, and he acknowledged that this is directly from the hysterectomy. I am so sorry that you have had to deal with the after affects of this surgery on top of having cancer!!! You poor thing, I wish I could give you a hug!!! My heart really breaks for you. But please know that there is support out there for women like us, who are dealing with the after affects of hysterectomy. Please contact Norah Coffee at the HERS (Hysterectomy Education Resource Services) foundation. She is amazing and will be there to listen, and give you lots of information on what is going on with you physically from the operation. There is also a really great website that I found called Hormones Matter. I am unable to attach the link on this site, as it will be marked as spam, but please google "Skeletal and anatomical changes after Hysterectomy" and the website underneath should say Hormones Matter. You can also read the comments underneath the article. It does help us feel like we are not alone in all of this. Please feel free to message me if you have any questions, and I wish I had seen your post sooner. God Bless!!!
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