Had hysterectomy and now depression

Postby saltycandy13 » Wed Jul 04, 2018 7:05 am

I had a hysterectomy January 19, 2018. I was told I had uterine cancer stage 1a. They removed my uterus, my cervix, my fallopian tubes and my ovaries.
Since then I am not myself. I suffer from debilitating hot flashes, headaches, nervousness, depression, heat intolerance, and feel sick to my stomach when I have to look at my scars on my abdomen. I have six scars in total. They are so deep and red. I hate them. They depress me more.

People are not kind to me. I have relatives that pretend they don't know the Hell I have been through. No respect at all. And a husband that keeps telling me I'm going to be okay, but I am not. I cry a lot. And I am so HOT and sweaty. Also, they found thyroid disease too. My thyroid is enlarged and I have Graves' Disease. It was in remission for years but now because my body they say went into shock with this horrible surgery, it has activtated it again.

I feel suicidal at times and wish I was not here.
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Postby quietvoice » Wed Jul 04, 2018 11:54 am

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Please, please !! Visit the following YouTube channel and take heed of the good person's words. He's helped SO many.

Robert Morse ND

Also visit John Rose.
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Postby DrPsychFeels » Sun Jul 08, 2018 4:01 pm

Go to the doctor and tell him what's wrong.

I think what you're going through is common and hormone replacement therapy can help.
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Postby saltycandy13 » Sun Jul 08, 2018 4:59 pm

you're not reading it right. I had CANCER they don't allow HRT anymore!
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Jul 09, 2018 2:21 pm

saltycandy13 wrote:People are not kind to me. I have relatives that pretend they don't know the Hell I have been through. No respect at all. And a husband that keeps telling me I'm going to be okay, but I am not.


What is not kind or disrespectful about your husband telling you that you will be okay?

What is your expectation of relatives? If I had survived cancer, my expectation would be my relatives might send a "get well" card. Past sending me their well wishes for a speedy recovery, my expectation is that the next time my relatives visited they might reinforce the well wishes with a short, 60 second "glad you are okay" conversation. What else are relatives suppose to do? Are they to treat me forever different because I survived cancer?

I guess it is not clear how relatives or your husband are being unkind or disrespectful. Do you expect to be treated differently now that you are a cancer survivor?
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Postby saltycandy13 » Mon Jul 09, 2018 3:13 pm

who said I survived> and yes, I want to be respected. When they visit my mother, they should ask if I'm still alive. I don't think you have a heart. You should BE in my boat I'm quitting this place. You people have about much sympathy as Donald Trump who is an a**hole
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Postby saltycandy13 » Mon Jul 09, 2018 3:20 pm

and further more, people like you have no idea what we women go through. What give you the right to judge? Only God can judge. I came here for support, I can see there is none. I get more support from people that I know from buying cosmetics. You wait. I HOPE YOU GET CANCER. LET'S SEE HOW YOU ACT. I have a friend that is going through chemotherapy right now, her husband left her. She is alone except for friends like me. She lost all her hair. She is stage 4~ So you HAVE NO IDEA WHAT IT IS LIKE. YOU CAN GO TO HELL. I HATE PEOPLE THAT ARE UNCARING AND UNFEELING. IN THE END GOD WILL JUDGE YOU AND YOU WILL GO TO HELL, I GUARANTEE IT. SO I AM DONE WITH YOU ASSHOLES.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Jul 09, 2018 3:56 pm

saltycandy13 wrote: I came here for support, I can see there is none.


Again, what do you consider support? What are your expectations?

I recognize you are angry, but I don't understand why. A forum is full of strangers. What do you expect? What would make you satisfied?

For instance, the absolute best I can offer is to say that it is unfortunate that you faced cancer and are facing a difficult recover. I can wish you well. And I do. I don't wish you any ill will. I wish you a speedy and successful recovery.

I think that is a reasonable expectation. I don't think any member of this forum would disrespect you or treat you unkind. I think any member would wish you a speedy and successful recovery.

The well wishers of strangers in an online forum are not...or should not be the in anyway comparable to the actions of your husband, your relatives, or your local community.

And this is why I'm not sure what you expect?
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Postby quietvoice » Mon Jul 09, 2018 5:34 pm

saltycandy13 wrote: I HOPE YOU GET CANCER.

Let's see. Most people, even your average doctor, do not know that "cancer" is a result of lifestyle choices. The problem is that most people do not know the right way to live, and therefore, we, as a culture, are suffering debilitating bodily ills without the knowledge of how to get out of it . . .

except that there are way-showers among us, and I provided to you access to two of them. It's up to you. Here's your chance to take a Hero's Journey.
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