How do I help my man's self-esteem in regard to his penis?

Postby cherm » Thu Jul 12, 2018 10:05 pm

I'll try to be brief..... I am deeply in love. While we were getting to know each other, I thought I would be sexy and tell him I was into light domination. Once we dated for while longer, out of the blue he asked me about that. I, very stupidly, told him I liked being spanked and such. He freaked out because he is absolutely not into that. We were working through that when he, for some unknown reason, asked about my ex's penis size. I, very stupidly, said he was big. Now my boyfriend, the man I want to marry, is so anxious about having sex with me that he won't let me touch him or go down on him because he feels inadequate. I've tried and tried to reassure him but he doesn't believe anything I say. I am not sure why but he has serious self-esteem problems and the whole penis size thing is killing him. He says he's trying to work this out but it rips me apart to see him in pain like this. What can I do, what can I say, to make him understand that he has absolutely nothing to be concerned about and his penis is perfect? I love this man with my entire soul and I'm afraid of losing him because of my stupidity.....
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Postby tokeless » Thu Jul 12, 2018 10:17 pm

He needs to own this issue not you. He's insecure and you can't reassure him because he'll think you're just saying it to make him feel better, even if what you say is true. Support him by all means and ask him how you both move forward.. This is his issue though and all you can do is support him in doing something about it. If he doesn't then the future doesn't look bright.
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Postby cherm » Thu Jul 12, 2018 10:21 pm

What can I do to help him with his insecurities? Anything?
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Postby cherm » Thu Jul 12, 2018 10:21 pm

What can I do to help him with his insecurities? Anything? I don't want to lose him because he feels inadequate....
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Postby quietvoice » Fri Jul 13, 2018 1:39 am

cherm wrote:I don't want to lose him because he feels inadequate....

That's the breaks, kiddo. If you're a woman, and a certain man can't get hard for you (or whatever is his problem), then you're with the wrong guy. There's plenty to be found elsewhere, and chances are that you'll find another that you want to marry. Next time remember that what went on between you and another man is not anyone's business.
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