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#270

Postby desperate788 » Tue Aug 06, 2019 10:44 pm

Ignoring is the good thing for the taxpayer he avoids legal trouble
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Tue Aug 06, 2019 10:47 pm

Fine. So you help someone else out, the taxpayer. Great. At least someone benefits.
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#272

Postby desperate788 » Tue Aug 06, 2019 10:50 pm

I don't care about taxpayers you don't know them
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#273

Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Tue Aug 06, 2019 10:53 pm

desperate788 wrote:I don't care about taxpayers...


So what?

You will be miserable regardless of the choice you make. You will not be happy. Therefore, can you for once in your life try to help someone other than yourself?
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#274

Postby desperate788 » Tue Aug 06, 2019 11:03 pm

I'm so fed up with life my mental situation made it much harder to deal with work that's why my soul deteriorated I don't care anyone except my mother and you. I don't want to help people all I care is my comfort but I can't get it because of worries
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#275

Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Tue Aug 06, 2019 11:25 pm

So no then...you don’t care to help anyone,

I hope, for the benefit of other people in this world, that you are removed from whatever role you might play in their lives. It is truly unfortunate, that you are in a position that allows you to screw over other people and there are no consequences for you.
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#276

Postby desperate788 » Tue Aug 06, 2019 11:31 pm

I don't harm anyone I don't play any role in anyone's life except my mother and you. Despite my complains I always try to be nice here
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#277

Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Tue Aug 06, 2019 11:57 pm

desperate788 wrote:I don't harm anyone I don't play any role in anyone's life


Bull.

You are thinking of doing something illegal. You will be harming someone, my guess is either the taxpayer or the community. The taxpayer will not be given due process, or their will be some sort of harm or unjust benefit based on the illegal activity YOU will choose to benefit YOU.

You are doing harm...or contemplating that you will do harm, and you do not care.
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#278

Postby ChessPlayer » Wed Aug 07, 2019 5:25 am

The world and other people do not owe you anything.

You don't owe other people anything.

With money you can treat other people like slaves (so to speak) they will act out your wishes if you have the money. Because that is how they communicate with each other. (They only care about themselves and money also)
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#279

Postby Candid » Wed Aug 07, 2019 7:37 am

desperate788 wrote:I don't want to help people all I care is my comfort but I can't get it because of worries


And here's the guts of it, that all you care about is your own comfort -- and that you can never be comfortable because you worry all the time that any action might have repercussions for you. Repercussions for other people don't matter to you.

The basis of self-esteem is knowing you've done the right thing, and that in difficult decisions you've done your best. You live in a world of other people, desperate, and that means your decisions and your actions affect people other than yourself.

But as Richard says, no matter what you do you're going to go on worrying and posting here about it. Everyone who replies to you here knows that. We've seen this same "problem" here a hundred times: making a decision at work, then thinking you might end up in prison for it.

Two posts later we can expect to see: "Works passed okay, but now I have another case, and blah blah blah..."

I've suggested many times that your navel-gazing and your obsession with defending yourself against any possible repercussions are the only problem. Making decisions is part of your job; it's what you get paid to do. Either do it or quit.

If you were to stop looking into your own head and start noticing other people, you would realise there are people on the forum -- and, I'm prepared to bet, in your workplace -- with real problems. Your own are imaginary. Stop looking at them and POOF! they'll disappear.
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#280

Postby desperate788 » Wed Aug 07, 2019 7:58 am

I would like to get rid of that work but I cant
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#281

Postby ChessPlayer » Wed Aug 07, 2019 8:19 am

Get more money and it will solve a lot of your problems desperate. I know, I was once in a position like yours. Money change my life for the better. I have so much freedom now.
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#282

Postby desperate788 » Wed Aug 07, 2019 11:42 am

Yes money solves my problems. I wouldn't have to work
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#283

Postby desperate788 » Wed Aug 07, 2019 12:08 pm

Should I ignore and send the work I fear that will delay my departure to istanbul
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#284

Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Wed Aug 07, 2019 12:10 pm

desperate788 wrote:Should I ignore and send the work I fear that will delay my departure to istanbul


Ask your boss.
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