Girl Friend's Anxiety

Postby FleetFox14 » Mon Sep 24, 2018 5:28 am

I was wondering if anyone could give me some guidance for my girl friend, who tends to be quite anxious at times. We dated for about 9 months in college (She was a freshman and I was a sophomore). Then, she said she only wanted to be friends. I resisted that because I knew she needed someone to love her and comfort her when she has bouts of anxiety. Nevertheless, I went on to basic training for the national guard over the summer (because I wanted to be able to support her financially). Well, during basic training I called her (after not having talked to her for a month) and she said she was transferring to a Bible Institute. She told me that she did not think I liked her anymore, so she was transferring. I told her that I still adored her and admired her very much. I am now back at college and she is 9 hours away. I told her I wanted to transfer to be close to her and she told me that if I did she would not talk to me. I know that there is not another guy and she has said that she does care for me very much. I am just confused. What are the best options? Do I move close to her anyway, because she said these things in an irrational way-- or should I just move on? I love her and I'm not sure why she can't accept that.

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Postby quietvoice » Mon Sep 24, 2018 11:39 am

FleetFox14 wrote: Then, she said she only wanted to be friends.

and she told me that if I did she would not talk to me.

Do I move close to her anyway, because she said these things in an irrational way-- or should I just move on?

If she's not full-hearted into you, it's time to move on.

FleetFox14 wrote:I love her and I'm not sure why she can't accept that.

It doesn't matter. Accept that she first friend-zoned you, then she even pulled that one out from under you. Move on.
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Postby Mayfair » Thu Sep 27, 2018 8:42 am

time to move on I think. I could be wrong. Don't listen to me.
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