Should I trust her?

Postby Guess what? » Mon Oct 15, 2018 6:16 pm

I met a girl, so she said that want a relationship from me, 'cause her ex-bf treats her bad and beat her up.
She came back home, and said that her ex-bf was in front of her home to try again with her.
She said that they talked only and when he tried to get close, she pulled him back.

Today she said the truth, they had sex. And for what I could see when she was with me, she couldn't cut him off from her life. When she was with me she was still chatting with him. Honestly i think i'm better then him.

she's saying that she talks with him 'cause she cannot forget how good he was with her the first times. But i don't understand, he stalks her, he beat her up, he calls her "b*tch who let others come in her mouth" she still falls for him.
I decided to close with her.
There's no point, and after what I said to her, if one day she will do again, she won't even say to me. Of course, nobody would do. But with her it's to clear that this is gonna happen again and again.
Everybody cheats on others, but things are too big now.

Now she spent money to come back to me, saying that she wants to be clear, and she closed up with him; she really is doing her best to make me forgive her. But I can't trust her anymore.

Please, I need really some good tips, sh** is going real.
I really cannot afford being lonely once again, we all know how shitty is the life of an average male
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Postby Livetowin » Thu Oct 25, 2018 1:12 pm

I don't think you have anything confusing going on here. You are resting all the decisions in her hands simply because she wants a relationship with you. You see how she handles past relationships and you also see how quickly she jumped to the next guy before she resolved these issues. I would take control back, drop the white knight syndrome because she's labeled herself a victim, and understand you are walking into the situation the last guy did. Now she is pitting you against him as cover for his transgressions. Don't provide her cover. Get yourself out of that situation before it's too late.

People who act like that are NOT victims of circumstance. They are authors of their own peril and they use the "poor pitiful me" as the bait for the next nice guy to get them out of the mess they create. I'm confident you can find a better companion to match who you are.
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Postby Guess what? » Sat Oct 27, 2018 5:18 pm

Yeah, I cutted every bond with her. Now everything is ok. :D
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Postby moondaddy1 » Tue Oct 30, 2018 2:52 pm

But just in case she talks you into starting it again - put it this way, there is certainly someone else out there with with less baggage with whom you'll be able to have a fulfilling and stable relationship with, just remember that. There are many many more fish in the sea.
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