highly sensitive to criticism

Postby johnmason » Sat Nov 03, 2018 10:38 am

why am i so sensitive to criticism..if someone scolds me or talk to me in a rough manner i get angry quickly..although i know i shouldnt..howsoever i may be good...i will get criticised...its the rule of human society..how do i let go of these sensitivity. ?and start not taking everything to heart..
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Postby Candid » Sat Nov 03, 2018 11:46 am

John, you've been here for a while now and a lot of your posts indicate you're very hard on yourself. That means when someone else has a go, your inner reaction is "I know I'm a bad guy, so lay off!"

If you could get rid of the self-criticism that runs through your head night and day, you'd be better placed to shrug off criticism from others. You're a good person. Keep that in mind, and what Other People say won't bother you.
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Postby johnmason » Sat Nov 03, 2018 12:55 pm

i know i am very hard on myself...but i am very very sensitive,, wish i could let go of it,,,, i hope to find happiness someday..maybe i will truly be able to accept myself as who i am with slight modification...
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Postby Candid » Sat Nov 03, 2018 4:09 pm

The best way to get started is to adore yourself exactly as you are right now. Honestly.
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Postby Roman_K » Fri Feb 15, 2019 10:03 am

Have you read Mindset by Carol Dweck?

She explains the difference between a growth mindset and a fixed mindset.

Can you relate to this:

When you fail at something:
1) You get angry
2) You judge (yourself and/or others)
3) You try to find the reasons for failure and justify it
4) Then you feel better finally

If that's the case you might want to read the book.
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Postby korbes » Tue Mar 05, 2019 3:19 pm

I think you take life too seriously, and you're too focused on external things instead of your internal dialogue.
I suggest you start a daily meditation habit and start to quiet down your mind.
Also, check out the book.. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, trust me it's life transforming!
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