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Postby desperate788 » Sat Dec 01, 2018 9:25 am

Chances low in manisa but I will look..Indeed many people go to classes to meet new people..yes 2 years is enough but I want to go to istanbul earlier. 2 years later it's certain that I go to istanbul if things don't change. Waves of worries and anxiety hit me now.
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Postby Candid » Sat Dec 01, 2018 9:36 am

What's so good about Istanbul?

Fastest way to get there is to look for available jobs and start applying for them. Don't wait for the tax office to transfer you there or you could be waiting a very long time!
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Postby desperate788 » Sat Dec 01, 2018 9:38 am

My mother and other relatives are there I won't be so alone there. I'm considering looking for jobs but I have low motivation prob.
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Postby Candid » Sat Dec 01, 2018 9:44 am

Low energy maybe, but surely the motivation is there. You know people. It's home.

There's always the possibility of staying with your mother while you find work.

How about you update your CV and consider what kind of work you might do best?

I think you've done your time in the tax office. It doesn't suit you. Find what does, and you'll feel entirely different about your life.
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Postby desperate788 » Sat Dec 01, 2018 9:50 am

I will live in a separate house if I go to istanbul but see my mother often ly. I will seriously work on my cv..no more tax crap. I may have some qualifications that I'm not aware.
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Postby Candid » Sat Dec 01, 2018 10:00 am

Great! Let's find out what you do best, and take your future into your own hands.
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Postby desperate788 » Sat Dec 01, 2018 10:03 am

Yes life is short and my years pass by crying all the time..
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Postby Candid » Sat Dec 01, 2018 10:09 am

Dry your eyes and get out your CV. Tease out the skills you have, and don't be modest. Add anything else you're good at or find enjoyable. Then you need to start thinking about how you show up at interviews. Are you confident? Can you 'sell' yourself? :P

Richard may be the man to coach you in this.

Also have a look at what jobs are available in Istanbul.
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Postby desperate788 » Sat Dec 01, 2018 10:29 am

All seems so hard for me but I want it really fed up with tax thing and living alone. What are our plans for today candid you told me to go out but I'm not sure if you meant it.
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Postby Candid » Sat Dec 01, 2018 10:40 am

desperate788 wrote:All seems so hard for me


This is where you start talking yourself out of taking action. Maybe Richard will be along later to put some dynamite under you.

but I want it really fed up with tax thing and living alone.


Yes, those are very good reasons for making a radical change. NOW.

What are our plans for today candid


Couple of hours from now I'll be heading for my ancestral territory. I haven't been there for more than 50 years, but I've been doing some research into my family tree and have got interested in where my father's side of the family came from. There's a town in the area with my surname! So I'm taking my research with me and hoping to run into some long-lost relatives. You never know.

you told me to go out but I'm not sure if you meant it.


It might be better than staying in on your own... unless you get serious about job-hunting in Istanbul.

If nothing else, you could sit in a comfortable place, close your eyes, and think how it would be to live near to your mother and other relatives, spending five days a week in a job you actually enjoy. If that doesn't motivate you, nothing will.
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Postby desperate788 » Sat Dec 01, 2018 10:45 am

I trust richard he can motivate me..Good luck with your search
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Postby desperate788 » Sat Dec 01, 2018 11:36 am

I'm having lunch out.
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Postby Candid » Sat Dec 01, 2018 11:59 am

Great!

While you're waiting to be seated or to order, chat to anyone who's there. I dare you!
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Postby desperate788 » Sat Dec 01, 2018 12:02 pm

I just can't do that. Also lunch made me feel disgusting.
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#29

Postby desperate788 » Sat Dec 01, 2018 12:23 pm

What about a movie?
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