I'm inferior to everyone else

Postby DrRanger34 » Thu Dec 13, 2018 12:44 am

I'm 5'1", and I have a 4.5" penis (erect). I don't see why anyone would chose me or want me; I am literally inferior to almost every male out there in every way. I am ugly, stupid, worthless, socially maladapted,the list goes on. I just don't see why anyone would want to be around me at all, or even take me as a romantic partner.

I don't think I even deserve to live..
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Postby Candid » Thu Dec 13, 2018 7:46 am

You're clearly not stupid.

If you think the right person is out there, she is -- and you'll keep looking until you find her, or she finds you. Conversely, if you don't believe she's out there, you'll become a surly man who repels all comers.

DrRanger34 wrote: I am ugly, stupid, worthless, socially maladapted...


Being socially maladapted follows from believing you're ugly, stupid and worthless. Buck up and tell us what's good about you.
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Postby BrokeSuicide » Thu Dec 13, 2018 9:41 am

DrRanger34 wrote:I'm 5'1", and I have a 4.5" penis (erect). I don't see why anyone would chose me or want me; I am literally inferior to almost every male out there in every way. I am ugly, stupid, worthless, socially maladapted,the list goes on. I just don't see why anyone would want to be around me at all, or even take me as a romantic partner.

I don't think I even deserve to live..


Life doesn't owe you anything. People don't owe you anything. You are not entitled to a romantic partner. You believe you are inferior to others then you most likely are. You're probably correct if all of what you say here.

Get a job, go to work, shut up and stop complaining would be my advice to you. Be a productive member of society and do good things to other people,

Have a great day.
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Postby DrRanger34 » Thu Dec 13, 2018 2:35 pm

Life doesn't owe you anything. People don't owe you anything. You are not entitled to a romantic partner. You believe you are inferior to others then you most likely are. You're probably correct if all of what you say here.

can you clarify that last sentence? also where did I imply I was entitled? these things are good and would be nice to have, but at the end of the day I just want to be happy with myself, but apparently that makes me entitled

Get a job, go to work, shut up and stop complaining would be my advice to you. Be a productive member of society and do good things to other people,

so I'm supposed to just shut up and be miserable?
that is some quality advice there.

Have a great day.

yeah, no, you have been rude and unhelpful. I'm surprised you were able to get 5 people to like this post
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Postby Axuda » Thu Dec 13, 2018 9:05 pm

Hi DrRanger34

I think there are a great many men who, in their private moments, feel just like you do. But in our society, we are so often comparing our own knowledge of our imperfect selves with everyone else's carefully crafted public image, so it's no wonder we feel inferior. Not only that, but for men in particular, there is much more emphasis placed on self-confidence. So if you don't have it, you feel that much worse in comparison.

I think the way that you describe yourself is telling. You are the one making that judgement about yourself, no-one else. You think 5' 1" is short. Some girls might describe it as cute. You describe yourself as stupid. Yet you are perfectly able to put together a clear, grammatically correct post without spelling errors, which is more than 98% of the posts I see on the internet.

I remember when I was young, there was a dog lived down the lane from where I lived. He was a weird looking thing, with a tongue too big to fit in his mouth, one ear, and scruffy as anything. He was one ugly dog. Thing was, because he was a dog, he didn't know that. So he used to roam the streets, impregnating as many dogs as he could get his paws on, much to the annoyance of a lot of the neighbours. He didn't care about what he looked like, or how stupid he was, or what he smelt like. He just got out there and made the effort. Not all the lady dogs succumbed to his advances (which is probably how he lost the ear), but he just kept trying.

On the other hand, I knew a stunningly beautiful catalogue model who was convinced she was fat and ugly. Human self-awareness is often our worst enemy.

Instead of worrying about what other people think of you, concentrate on you. Your appearance is about much more than physical attributes. Maybe get a decent haircut at a salon - they will advise you on how to make the best of what you have. Showing that you care about yourself immediately makes you more attractive, because if you think you are worth the effort, others will too. You don't even have to believe it - others will notice, and women are much more attuned to that kind of thing than men.

So remember, you are not alone - almost every man feels like you at some stage in their life. Just make the best of what you've got and remember: even the ugliest dog in the street can still have fun...

Best of luck, mate.
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Postby Self Esteem Mentor » Thu Dec 13, 2018 10:21 pm

Hey, I am sorry you feel this way, but I think there is a problem with your statement. The whole statement is about how you don't think a girl will like you for who you are basically.

This isn't the problem.

See the problem, lies in the way you see yourself. You need to learn to be accepting of who you are. It isn't until you accept yourself and become ok with yourself that you will start to have a better outlook on life. If you gain the confidence you need to overcome this obstacle the rest of life will fall into place.

See the thing that is most attractive to women, whether they want to admit it or not, is confidence. You can be tall, really built, and have a 12 inch member, if you don't have confidence, you don't have a chance. You can be short, fat, and bald, if you have real confidence, its like a magnet.

To man people worry about rejection, that they start to accept rejection before it happens, just like you are saying in your post. You are already so sure that those women aren't going to like you, that you have already lost hope, and it shows in how you act in life, and women can pick up on that.

So your first and most important goal, is gain confidence. You are not alone, and you are going to be fine in life.
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Postby Candid » Fri Dec 14, 2018 8:00 am

DrRanger34 wrote: at the end of the day I just want to be happy with myself,


Good! Because that's as easy as falling off a log.

Your own wisdom has spoken. You need to love who you are, love what you do, love your own life. Give yourself the adoration you crave from a Significant Other. Look in the mirror and tell yourself: "I love you, DrRanger". Do that every time you pass a mirror.

Think of yourself in the highest terms. There's no one else like you. You're divinely human, not despite whatever faults you perceive, but because of them.

Love who you are, smile, be joyful. Enjoy being you. Honestly, who would you trade places with? No one! You want to be you -- you, but doing better.

When you love yourself and your life, you'll be doing better immediately. People will look at you and wonder what your secret is. Don't tell them, not yet. They'll find out when they're ready.

If you don't like you, why should anyone else? Conversely, as soon as you genuinely love you, no one will be able to resist you. That's a promise.

By the way, Watzisname didn't get five 'likes' for that post. He and I go back a long way, and I gave him the 'like' for what I thought was brilliant advice for himself. It doesn't apply to you.
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