Very scared over the probability of bad thing happening to m

Postby halgol » Tue Apr 23, 2019 7:49 pm

I feel really scared and obsessed with the thought that a bad thing could happen to me in near future. And although the chance it could actually happen is maybe around 50% or even less, I still can't get this thought out of my head and I'm in a constant mild Fight-or-Flight state of mind because of this which is making it hard for me to focus on my regular activities. Sure, if what I fear comes true, it will have some unpleasant consequences for me, but not something I can't cope with. I also know how to act in the worst case scenario so actually the fear that I'm experiencing at the moment is much worse than the potential bad outcome. So why do I keep feeling like this then? Currently there's nothing I can do to prevent this happening and it could basically occur anytime between today and the next 3-4 months, but I can't imagine being in this condition for so long. What are your thoughts on this and what could you recommend me so that I don't feel that scared and my brain could return to normal activity? Any help is greatly appreciated.
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Postby annonymous9319 » Tue Apr 23, 2019 8:56 pm

My advice would be to cross that bridge when (and if) you come to it. I read a quote before that worrying about something that may happen is suffering twice because you’re worrying now before it even has or may happen and if it does happen you will only worry again. If there is truly nothing you can do about it then keep telling yourself if you have no power to change it then don’t worry until you need to. Positive thoughts.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Tue Apr 23, 2019 11:32 pm

In 3-4 months you either lose a hand or a foot. One or the other and there is nothing you can do about it. What do you do?

Prepare for both potential outcomes. That is what people do. They accept that they will need to be ready and begin practicing and arranging their lives to accommodate either eventuality.

You don’t sit around and wait to see what happens, unless there is some necessary resource you need to save to dedicate towards one path or the other.

I realize the above advice is a bit abstract, but it is not clear what issue you face and why you believe it 50/50.
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Postby James_Lee » Fri May 03, 2019 11:28 pm

In my case, simply knowing that these experiences are common alone is enough to give me some level of assurance. I can guarantee you that you are not alone in these feelings
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