Despair

Postby MaskedG » Sat May 18, 2019 3:35 pm

I Will start by saying that I am disabled ( chroic mental illness&ptsd). That is why I am alone, avoiding people. (I am 26) However, I have been in a relationship for about a year, long distance. He is acting strange. He said he has depression. He never visits me, he doesnt want to. He still uses dating site and talks to women there. Yesterday he started screaming at me, calling me lame, telling me how much fun he has with women. It was to muc h, i got Hurt so badly, and its not the first time.
What am I supposed to do?
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Postby MaskedG » Sat May 18, 2019 6:57 pm

Please help me.
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Postby quietvoice » Sat May 18, 2019 8:20 pm

MaskedG wrote:What am I supposed to do?

Sit with yourself and ponder why it is that you feel that you need this "relationship." See if it is within your capacity to let it go, and let it be.

Maybe, you can talk with desperate788 who is a member here at this board.
click here, I'm sure that he can appreciate your online company.
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Postby MaskedG » Sun May 19, 2019 5:36 pm

I've created an attachment to this person. I wouldn't want to break up, but he clearly is very annoyed with me. It disturbs me that I do not have the courage to express my disappointment with his behaviour. I wish I wrote him an email, but I am unable to be assertive, I don't want even more hatred, thinking he often sheltered me from that I had in the past.
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Postby Candid » Sun May 19, 2019 6:07 pm

MaskedG wrote:I've created an attachment to this person. I wouldn't want to break up...


Yes, you created the attachment -- you hypnotised yourself to believe yourself in love with this prize specimen -- and from what you've said it isn't going to be up to you to break it up. I think he's already done it.

I do not have the courage to express my disappointment

I wish I wrote him an email...


Maybe listen to some soppy love songs and have a really good cry about it, then dry your eyes and be very clear that you aren't going to waste time thinking you messed up or wanting to tell him how you feel. He isn't worth it.

Then work on your self-esteem. PTSD is horrible, it automatically puts a barrier between you and other people, so you need to focus on relaxation techniques and on making friends, with no thought (yet) of a 'special' relationship.
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Postby desperate788 » Sun May 19, 2019 6:12 pm

You may listen always/bon jovi
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Postby desperate788 » Sun May 19, 2019 6:24 pm

desperate788 wrote:You may listen always/bon jovi

Sorry this may be a wrong recommendation regard to your situation
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon May 20, 2019 7:57 am

MaskedG wrote:What am I supposed to do?


Goals most often require a solid foundation. Building a house on quicksand is destined to waste time and ultimately fail.

You are seeking a healthy relationship when you are currently not healthy. You lack the foundation for a successful intimate relationship.

Work on your disability. Build a healthy foundation. That is what you are suppose to do.
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