What to do..?

#15

Postby theforsaken » Sun Sep 08, 2019 7:48 am

Richard I can see how it might look that way but it's really not like that.
I'm just torn that's all.
I want to live in the country with her. but that seems impossible, at least for now.
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Postby Candid » Fri Sep 13, 2019 3:42 pm

theforsaken wrote:I want to live in the country with her. but that seems impossible, at least for now.


I think "the country" is the problem, theforsaken.

You've told us many times that you don't fancy any of the local women. You've proved your point over and over again, in several disappointing experiences with visiting workers on short-term visas -- and now you've been driven to online romance.

In the meantime, there hasn't been much to do except to get drunk with the other blokes. You've told us many times that you're a sensitive soul who doesn't feel good about being just another foul-mouthed, beer-swilling drunk.

Now that you've lost your job I hope you'll go to this new love's city, take up the job she can find you, and see what happens. You can let your house so tenants pay it off for you.

Even if the relationship doesn't work, you're better placed to meet a variety of women and to try your luck in a far greater number and variety of trades.
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Postby theforsaken » Fri Dec 06, 2019 2:27 pm

@Candid
Things have gone forward since I last posted, I'm at her place now, I decided I'll come and eventually I did.
So far still no job though, her uncle that reckoned he'd get me one turned out to be kinda useless.

probably won't find anything till after new year's now, it's that sh** time of year where no one really hires anyone.
In the mean time I'm gonna just keep applying for stuff and I'm gonna focus on myself. I want to get in shape somewhat and lose a lot of weight.

It's not so bad here so far, apart from the traffic, her roommate that I hope leaves soon (I've got a feeling she's sick of me and I don't plan on changing anything, my GF is also sick of the roommate, when I find work I'll probably start talking her into kicking her out.). And the f---ing smoke!
There's bush fires close by (not dangerously close) but it's enough that there's a constant haze and I've forgotten what the clear blue sky looks like, it's just been yellow/grey since I've been here. Lucky I took a picture of a clear day from my back door when me and my GF were back at mine visiting. A week or so ago.
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Postby CandyApples » Fri Feb 21, 2020 7:38 pm

Thats a hard one. The obvious reply is it sounds like you both love eachother so go for it, you never know what life has in store. The reality is...that love needs to be strong, and communication and commitment needs to be stronger. She needs to understand, on a deep level...your introverted country like ways and how lots of socialization and such drains you. Most ppl dont realize that it literally..drrraaaainnnssss ppl to the point of like being bedridden, when they are introverted or HSP in nature. You dont want to be 20 years in, and suddenly your spouse is wanting to go go go and socialize and all that, and your like there not knowing what to do. (its happening to me atm and it sucks....)...so my advice is you both need to have a deep understanding of eachother and decide how both of you can be yourselves, not "give up" things necessarily and just work out how you can do all that without making the other one feel isolated or miserable...

It can work, it can be a lovely balance------but life changes, I look at it like a book, everyone goes through different chapters...you need a game plan on how to handle when the pages do not turn in your favor or her favor, bc itll happen.
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