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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sat Dec 28, 2019 8:33 pm

desperate788 wrote:When I was younger there were times I upset my mother ecen make her cry but lately I'm always nice to her the only problem between us is her trying to make me talk to my disgusting sister


So you continue to hurt your mother. And you hurt your sister same as you hurt your father.
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Postby desperate788 » Sat Dec 28, 2019 8:39 pm

If I hurt my sister I would be glad. My father died despite all the things he made me I'm sorry for him. I don't consciously want to hurt my mother but have nothing to do for subconscious motives.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sat Dec 28, 2019 8:54 pm

desperate788 wrote: I don't consciously want to hurt my mother but...


So you continue to hurt your mother. And you know that you hurt your mother. And you blame your “subconscious” to rid yourself of guilt for your horrible, selfish behaviors.
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Postby desperate788 » Sat Dec 28, 2019 8:57 pm

I'm so nice to my mother that's all I can say. What's my horrible behaviour related to my mother? My horrible behaviours are to my own self usually.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sat Dec 28, 2019 9:06 pm

desperate788 wrote: What's my horrible behaviour related to my mother?


You caused your mother pain when you treated your father bad. You now cause your mother pain as you attack your sister.

You attack the people your mother loves. Your mother extends kindness that you repeatedly reject and you say “it’s a problem”.

That is horrible behavior. Your mother suffers because of your behavior. Your mother suffers as you attack your family.
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Postby desperate788 » Sat Dec 28, 2019 9:29 pm

My father and sister are terrible people who want to make me sick. What can I do?
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Postby desperate788 » Sat Dec 28, 2019 9:31 pm

I understand my avoidance from my sister hurts my mother but what can I do I can see the hate in my sisters eyes to me what should I do totally surrender?
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sat Dec 28, 2019 9:37 pm

desperate788 wrote:I understand my avoidance from my sister hurts my mother but what can I do...


You can (1) stop pretending that you don’t hurt your mother and (2) stop being selfish.
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Postby desperate788 » Sat Dec 28, 2019 9:40 pm

Ok I may be hurting my mother and I may be a selfish person. I can't see any solution to change that.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sat Dec 28, 2019 10:03 pm

desperate788 wrote:Ok I may be hurting my mother and I may be a selfish person. I can't see any solution to change that.


Let it sink in how much you have hurt your mother over the years. Stop pretending that you are not hurtful. Spend time each day thinking about the pain you cause your mother.

That change in perspective may lead to a solution.
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Postby Candid » Sun Dec 29, 2019 8:20 am

desperate788 wrote:my sister is one of the lowest people in world whenever I see her she tries to worsen my mental health


That's what you used to say about your father. Hundreds if not thousands of posts about he set out to ruin your chances of happiness, he was doing the same to your mother, he hated you, he ate people, he was controlling your mind even when you moved to another city and never saw him, and so on and so on all the way up to the day he died... then you got all maudlin about him and regretted not seeing him.

Wake up, desperate, you're being a prat.
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Postby desperate788 » Sun Dec 29, 2019 8:33 am

I may seem odd but that's true my father and sister hate me and want to ruin my life.
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#312

Postby desperate788 » Sun Dec 29, 2019 10:07 am

I'm at a point in my life that all I want is sleeping all day. Life lost all its attractiveNess. After so much distress and anxiety that's normal
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Postby desperate788 » Sun Dec 29, 2019 10:19 am

Never ending work anxiety ruined my love for life it's terrible I don't have a life just sleep anxious about work I can't have fun travel etc just sleep anxious
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Postby Candid » Sun Dec 29, 2019 10:33 am

desperate788 wrote:I'm at a point in my life that all I want is sleeping all day.


Good idea.
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