Getting more introverted day by day

Postby masmas » Mon Oct 28, 2019 6:32 pm

Hey, I hope the person reading this is doing well. I can describe myself as a 20. y.o , pretty much introverted, sometimes shy, generally anxious person. It was always like that. I think these situations didn't bother me much back then, but now I am stepping into being an adult, they just affect me more. Because I realized that humans are just social creatures. And sitting at home all day long, not interacting with any other will not get me nowhere. I thought being that way was just normal, so even though I realize I was wrong, it just feels so unnatural to change my view to life. These thoughts are constantly in my mind for a couple of weeks. The more I think about it, more I feel anxious,insecure and eventually I basically don't want to do any single thing.
Just a quick example, I am talking with a person for some time that I truly love and care, I know she cares about me too. And we may start a relationship but then these things come to my mind. Like probably I will start to overthink about some tiny things and I end up not making her happy. Because even now I am overthinking about things and feeling uncomfortable. This cycle keeps repeating and eventually I am becoming more introverted.
I was diagnosed OCD and anxiety disorder 5 years ago and I had antidepressant treatment for a year. I am considering psychological help these days, but this time I don't want any chemical treatment. I know that it is not enough, also I must have the courage to change. But just thinking going to a therapist also gives me anxiety.
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Postby Icanbeatthis » Sun Nov 10, 2019 2:32 am

Hi, I'm a total 100% introvert and have anxiety. There's nothing wrong with being an introvert we think more we have unique ideas we are more observant we are great listeners the list just goes on. The best leaders are introverts. Introverts have changed the world Charles Darwin bill Gates Einstein speiberg to name a few. I wouldn't be an extrovert if you paid me. We have our problems for sure there's nothing easy about being introverted extroverts seem to glide through life having fun. But you should be glad to be one. That fact our lives are more difficult makes us wiser and smarter. You are a very valuable person, no advice for your problems sorry just the little support
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Postby Icanbeatthis » Sun Nov 10, 2019 4:09 am

Another thought for you to process like we introverts do! Lol if u r becoming more introverted your life will b becoming more difficult sure but u wil b becoming more of a better person it has a nice Ying yang balance. Go with your strengths pet's are great for introverts we love and take good care of animals just a thought
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Postby Icanbeatthis » Sun Nov 10, 2019 4:40 am

As for the girl u love and want to be with. Nothing is more important than love, not fear not pain not failure nothing. If you can't say it then txt her this. I love you and want you can you come see me right now. Don't feel it don't think about it just do it before u think about it. Its right and life is short
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Postby Icanbeatthis » Sun Nov 10, 2019 5:01 am

I wish I had love in my life u say she cares for u I think there's virtually no chance she wil reject u. if you can't txt her I love you an want you can u come see me. Write the txt and don't send it. Wait until u have the strength to send it u only need 1 second of strength to send it. It will work
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Postby Icanbeatthis » Sun Nov 10, 2019 5:11 am

She cares for u its exactly wat she wants to hear
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Postby GalmOne » Sat Nov 30, 2019 10:32 am

Not to mention that if you really feel a connection with this person, if you really spend lots of time together, do your daily activities together etc, she will end up not being "external", and no matter how introverted you are, she won't be an "outsider" anymore.
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Postby RosaD » Tue Dec 10, 2019 9:03 pm

Hello Masma

Thought about your post and tried to read between the lines. It sounds like you were lonely, and your friend filled that void. If this is true, it must be threatening to think about her leaving the relationship. I am thinking what that would feel like. I come up with scared.

May I suggest you consider that you know she is not cheating, and just hanging out with her friends. I say this because I have a tendency to grab on to people tightly. They get uncomfortable and pull away. Not to say this is what will happen in your relationship. But, it can.

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Postby ginabi » Fri Dec 13, 2019 6:34 am

I suggest that live in the present. Just think of the things that are happening and not the worst things that could happen. Make it a habit to think positive things though its difficult. It'll make u see things different in life
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Postby masmas » Fri Dec 13, 2019 9:24 pm

RosaD wrote:
It sounds like you were lonely, and your friend filled that void.



I think this might be the perfect explanation for my situation. And she might felt the same way. We've known each other for 2 years. Sometimes we get closer, sometimes we're just normal friends. About three months ago we started getting closer again, and it felt good to know that someone cares for me. But there were always anxious thoughts in my mind just like I described before. About a month ago, she was drifting away from me all of a sudden, I still don't know why. I tried to talk with her and get things better. But she always claimed we were okay. Then what I fear the most has happened. It became an obsession for me. Constantly thinking why she's acting like that, why she is not talking with me, who she is talking to, checking her last seen all the time.. Last 3 weeks were so bad with these thoughts, but I feel I'm getting better now. I hate to say it but I kinda realized that if she would really care for me, she wouldn't act like that.

My mood changes so much throughout the day lately. Our memories come into my mind all of a sudden, good or bad, and totally threw my focus off.
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Postby RosaD » Sat Dec 14, 2019 4:23 pm

Masmas . . . . Here is my story.

I looked at old pictures with me and people I cared about. I held the people close -- almost like I was clutching them. Without exception, their bodies arched outward away from them. That to say this....I wanted their love so badly that I pulled too hard.

If the person was a narcissist, I got used. If they were not, I was abandoned. For me, I am learning to love myself, so I don't need people so much. This is necessary because being used and/or abandoned results in me pulling away from others. Like you, I get more and more introverted day by day. That is my story. I hope you find your answer.

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Postby GalmOne » Thu Dec 26, 2019 4:43 pm

Yeah, I've noticed much to my displeasure that when you're introverted and open up to a person, you're getting attached to them even if they're more toxic than a spa in Chernobyl... And then you suffer and just become more introverted, and it's harder to open up to someone, and then you open up to a toxic person like an idiot, and..
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Postby CandyApples » Wed Feb 19, 2020 2:15 pm

I didnt read the replies so forgive me if Im repeating. First....you do not need to feel wrong...at all. Think about it, it makes more sense for someone to be a introvert and think and feel on a deeper level, then it does someone who just open willy nilly socializes and can digest artificial lights and noise and bs. The world is nuts, people as a whole are screwed up, why would any sain mind what to bathe themselves in all that? Introverts date back to like, heck..."caveman" times...our instincts are build for survival....be alert, process, over think..keep on guard...its how most of the animal kingdom works..which is in nature which is "natural". I literally...literally talk to 2 ppl and one of them is my child, thats how introverted Iam. While I would love to add to that number, I learned from age and such that is worth it to find ppl who can understand and think on your level, and it is to just leap into a group of ppl who are total opposite, unless you like drama...bc thats how itll end up at some point. Do you get depressed at times? Im sure you do, Im sure there are things out there you want to do , but its hard bc tons of ppl come with it. You cant even go to a nature park and find a isolated spot to breath without someone running up on you. The world is not set up for introverts, or night owls at that....but it is slowly changing. Sometimes going to college, or back to college, going to the library, joininf forums like this, help. There are ppl out there what would love just to sit in a room with you and just be or talk about, heck --time travel for example or something weird.....Im trying to take my own advice and just be proud of who you are, even though it is a very very lonely road. I hope it pays off. Otherwise you will just try to not be you and youll end up being one angry person, as I find myself being more at times, when you attempt to join those who...just are far, far far from who you are as a person.
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