Inappropriate eye contact/movement with people

Postby mixtape » Wed Dec 18, 2019 1:55 pm

Especially when I'm out walking if I don't look at people or look away, they look amused and as I understand it (YouTube research), see me as weak. If I look at people, they either look uncomfortable or even hostile and some even become verbal.

I try to control my face so that it doesn't look pissed off, try to make it neutral, but when I'm tired I guess it might look "grouchy" again.


I have also noticed that people I meet seem to react to my eye movements, that they are odd. Where I look and how long I look.

Are these problems typical for any mental illness? Can they be trained away/under control or is it permanent?
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Postby Candid » Wed Dec 18, 2019 4:37 pm

Sounds to me like poor self-esteem.
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Postby mixtape » Sat Dec 28, 2019 2:40 pm

Candid wrote:Sounds to me like poor self-esteem.


Yeah, both my self-esteem and self-confidence is at the bottom of the scale.

How do I solve my current problem though?
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Postby Candid » Sun Dec 29, 2019 7:33 am

I'd be looking at a holistic approach.
1) Love and approve of yourself, exactly as you are.
2) There is no 2).

For some reason you're trying to appease other people, having the 'right' look on your face, worrying about what they think of you. Question is, what do you think of you? And right after that, what do you think of other people?

If you expect to be judged, you will be. If you think you've got to act a part, or hide yourself, people will perceive you as untrustworthy.

https://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/19-sim ... ickly.html
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