Parental Property Rights

Postby Lautermilch » Tue May 19, 2020 12:44 pm

Now that I’m getting older, 58, I’m looking back at life and what happened to me and certain questions I would like to get an answer. If anyone could tell me a term in psychology for what happened to me so that I could further read about it I would greatly appreciate it.
It would take several pages to explain why it happened but the simple version is my aunt who lived close by and her friend decided when I was 11 that either I or my young sister would be moving in with my aunt when we turned 21 since my aunt had dedicated her life to taking care of her parents. My sister and I were taken ‘for a ride’ and the details given to use that we could choose who it would be but one of us would be doing it.
I ignored it as I am a male and could clearly see my aunt was expecting the ‘daughter’ she never had.
Sure enough, when I told my aunt I was renting my first apartment she went nuts trying to get me in to live with her. She wanted to repeat all that she did for her mother except she wanted me to play the role she had done. I refused of course and then came 15 years of very dark anger and the question that was asked of me thousands of times of ‘who will pay me back?’. It was clear that she considered all she did for her parents as a kind of deposit and she was coming to me to collect since younger sister had blocked her ever since being first told of the idea.
So is it common for parental figures to expect ‘ownership’ of children of what they will be doing as adults?
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Postby Candid » Tue May 19, 2020 3:04 pm

Yes, but that doesn't make it right.
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Postby Lautermilch » Tue May 19, 2020 5:09 pm

Is there a standard term used for this kind of manipulation ?
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Postby Candid » Wed May 20, 2020 4:58 am

Family.
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