I need some serious help

Postby gregorikus » Tue May 26, 2020 4:01 am

I am 40 years old. I work as a freelancer sporadically. I spend a lot of time at home, especially the last 10 years or so. I used to be socially exposed much more till my late thirties. I am not married and live with my parents.I find it difficult to explain what is bothering me, especially because the English is not my native language. There are some people I have hard time dealing with. The funny thing is that they are very close to me. One of them is my neighbor , very close friend and something more so it is very difficult to avoid him. The others are my close cousins. Every day from the moment I wake up, I feel severe anxiety about him coming to my home. Sometimes I sleep as much as I can or spending some time in my bed, sometimes I drink alcohol... I strictly avoid to take some medicaments; I am not sure why I avoid them, but I do.My parents do not make my life easier, on the contrary they make it even harder. During the time I have became supersensitive.My threshold to any stimuli has gone way down.Everything bothers me: open doors, barking dogs, sound of the cars passing by, seeing people on the street from the inside etc. Every day let's say from 10 am to 10 pm I am kind of obsessed with the idea of him coming to my home and it is overwhelming. I can't stand it. I am unable to focus on anything, which is very bad when I have some job to do. I need some serious advice and help.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Tue May 26, 2020 5:23 am

gregorikus wrote: My threshold to any stimuli has gone way down. Everything bothers me:


When something (stimuli) is a bother your response Is to retreat, hide, or otherwise run away. This creates a cycle. It becomes easy.

There is only one solution. Reverse the cycle. Stop avoiding stimuli. Build up your strength by intentionally placing yourself in situations that bother you.

An analogy is going to exercise. People avoid exercise because it is uncomfortable, it bothers them, or is painful. After 10 years of avoidance they are very weak. The only solution is exercise. The person must confront the reality and begin to intentionally embrace the discomfort and pain.

You need mental exercise. You don’t want to as after 10 years you are mentally very weak. Even the smallest weight is painful, it is not comfortable. Regardless, your only solution is to build your strength. No one can do it for you.
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