Anger management for youngins

Postby shotzonshotz3 » Mon Aug 03, 2020 7:57 am

How do you control anger among siblings?
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Postby Candid » Mon Aug 03, 2020 8:32 am

Is it your siblings we're talking about, shotz?
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Postby Leo Volont » Mon Aug 03, 2020 9:09 pm

Hi Shotzonshotz,

When sibling children are getting troublesomely contentious, then step in as a calm and steady but seasoned Magistrate and offer to mediate between them fairly, though holding binding arbitration like a card up your sleeve. Show them the way the World is supposed to work. Also, when they are loud and aggressive you can remind them of how their Schools and Employers will assess such behaviors 15 or 20 years hence. You can begin them in the Wisdom of Cognitive Behavior Theory by telling them that they can be anybody they want to be, or at least act like it. they must watch themselves and fine tune their behaviors according to how they are received by their family, fellows and peers. If behaviors turn out badly for them, they must try to figure out a different and better way to react to the same situations. Almost absolutely always reacting with loud voice, cursing when they grow up, and aggression is definitely perhaps the worst way to react. Hold yourself up as an example and tell them that while some fathers would be yelling and screaming at them and threatening corporal punishment, you yourself are behaving with disciplined calm and a mind resolved on rational problem solving solutions.
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Postby bawdyheated » Tue Sep 22, 2020 3:19 am

shotzonshotz3 wrote:How do you control anger among siblings?


Control, stay away from the scene to cool down.
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Postby bawdyheated » Mon Oct 05, 2020 10:34 pm

Explain and make them realize the effect of their doings
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Postby Tom Dolton » Tue Oct 06, 2020 6:44 pm

They do martial arts. One is doing boxing, the other - jiu-jitsu. So they leave all the aggression at their trainings.
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Postby Leo Volont » Wed Oct 07, 2020 12:45 am

Hi Tom, Actually, Tom, Martial Arts training is REHEARSAL for aggression. Yeah, Pornography also releases tension but it also creates some undesirable sexual proclivities because of that rehearsal aspect. But that's just sick and freak. But Violence can HURT. Decades ago in America a lot of schools treated Boxing as a Sport, but they decided to nix that idea because students trained in boxing, when they would get into an argument, would knock out their fellow students. Also, check out arrest records for assault. they read like the film credits for a Fung Fu movie. People who practice regularly at shooting ranges are more likely to commit homicide with firearms. Tom, people DO what they rehearse to do. I knew a kid back in college who went to a strange bar with his girlfriend, a real slut, and so he got into a confrontation with this guy who was making a pass at his girlfriend. The guy gave him a little shove and told him to mind his own business... you know, that slut was coming on to him, right? Well, if my friend had not been trained in the martial arts then it never would have occurred to him to simultaneously break two beer bottles and grind them into the guys eyes. Yeah, and then he had the presence of mind to split while everybody else was still standing around in horror and trying to get to a phone to call 911. But my friend told me all that in regret. Without martial arts it would have been a shoving match and people would have stepped in to break it up, like we see all the time at bars. Yeah, the Beer Bottle was probably something that he saw in a movie, but remember that Martial Arts kids WATCH those movies and take notes. But even with their actual training you will have kids kicking into knee joints on purpose and doing permanent damage. Kids will smack in elbow joints in wrong direction on purpose and cause permanent injury. Tom, it is kind of the height of irresponsibility to instruct children on the systematic application of violence. Even the Military has problems because they ramp it up to where they give their Special Forces and Special Teams training to kill, not just hostile enemy combatants, but they do desensitizing training so they can go through towns and villages and clear them with grenades popped through windows, you know, indiscriminately killing women and children because they are too nervous to knock on the door. But, yeah, people aren't the same after that kind of training. Many Post Traumatic Stress Subjects picked it up just from their Training. It is rehearsal to kill. Tom, try to focus a little more on common sense. I know that some little bell must have went off in your head when you were advising children being brutalized and hardened to violence but you made yourself ignore it, right?
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Postby Tom Dolton » Mon Oct 12, 2020 3:28 pm

Leo Volont wrote:Hi Tom, Actually, Tom, Martial Arts training is REHEARSAL for aggression. Yeah, Pornography also releases tension but it also creates some undesirable sexual proclivities because of that rehearsal aspect. But that's just sick and freak. But Violence can HURT. Decades ago in America a lot of schools treated Boxing as a Sport, but they decided to nix that idea because students trained in boxing, when they would get into an argument, would knock out their fellow students. Also, check out arrest records for assault. they read like the film credits for a Fung Fu movie. People who practice regularly at shooting ranges are more likely to commit homicide with firearms. Tom, people DO what they rehearse to do. I knew a kid back in college who went to a strange bar with his girlfriend, a real slut, and so he got into a confrontation with this guy who was making a pass at his girlfriend. The guy gave him a little shove and told him to mind his own business... you know, that slut was coming on to him, right? Well, if my friend had not been trained in the martial arts then it never would have occurred to him to simultaneously break two beer bottles and grind them into the guys eyes. Yeah, and then he had the presence of mind to split while everybody else was still standing around in horror and trying to get to a phone to call 911. But my friend told me all that in regret. Without martial arts it would have been a shoving match and people would have stepped in to break it up, like we see all the time at bars. Yeah, the Beer Bottle was probably something that he saw in a movie, but remember that Martial Arts kids WATCH those movies and take notes. But even with their actual training you will have kids kicking into knee joints on purpose and doing permanent damage. Kids will smack in elbow joints in wrong direction on purpose and cause permanent injury. Tom, it is kind of the height of irresponsibility to instruct children on the systematic application of violence. Even the Military has problems because they ramp it up to where they give their Special Forces and Special Teams training to kill, not just hostile enemy combatants, but they do desensitizing training so they can go through towns and villages and clear them with grenades popped through windows, you know, indiscriminately killing women and children because they are too nervous to knock on the door. But, yeah, people aren't the same after that kind of training. Many Post Traumatic Stress Subjects picked it up just from their Training. It is rehearsal to kill. Tom, try to focus a little more on common sense. I know that some little bell must have went off in your head when you were advising children being brutalized and hardened to violence but you made yourself ignore it, right?

Awesome answer! Thanks, Leo! :)
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