Finding Yourself

Postby davidbanner99@ » Sun Aug 30, 2020 5:52 pm

This was the most important step I learned - the hard way. It took me many years to learn it. Strangely, adopting a fairly wild and insecure German Shepherd Dog really taught me a lot about acceptance. That is, dogs will love you unconditionally, despite your defects. Dogs will see beyond mere appearance and seek out a deeper bond.

The thing about self image is that ultimately self belief must be a personal, relaxed decision. You accept yourself with the knowledge you have many flaws. I can list my own. They are not pleasant but, then again, I have my good points too.

Where we really go astray is when we become pressured to be what society imposes. Such as successful, rich, a winner and so forth. Expectations are forced on you to pass exams, date attractive girls, drive a big car.

Personally, that isn't what mattered to me, although that took some years to work out. So far as education goes, that too was a personal desire to learn on my part and not just cramming to pass an exam.

At some point I heard of Jiddu Krishnamurti who was a popular Indian philosopher in the 1970s. Note, he was not a cult leader but simply a philosophy figure. His philosophy was based on the need to find yourself. There was even a film made starring David Carradine called The Silent Flute. Anyway here are some quotes:

"In oneself lies the whole world and if you know how to look and learn, the door is there and the key is in your hand. Nobody on earth can give you either the key or the door to open, except yourself. "Krishnamurti

"Most persons are so absorbed in the contemplation of the outside world that they are wholly oblivious to what is passing on within themselves." Nichola Tesla

"It is not people who break ethical standards who are regarded as aliens. It is people like me who are isolated." Grigory Perelman
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Postby Prycejosh1987 » Mon Dec 14, 2020 5:18 pm

Everyone has a purpose and a destiny, my purpose of destiny is defined in listening to others and finding people that want to listen.
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Postby davidbanner99@ » Mon Dec 14, 2020 9:53 pm

Prycejosh1987 wrote:Everyone has a purpose and a destiny, my purpose of destiny is defined in listening to others and finding people that want to listen.

Finding yourself is tough to do. It means essentially daring to be who you really are. 98 per cent of people cannot let go of what others want them to be. I was shocked to discover that even highly esteemed science researchers will change their opinion on a point of contention, if their status is boosted. That is, "fitting in" matters more than the subject they study. Finally, I understood why mathematician Grigory Perelman broke off connections with the international maths community.
To explain this better, "individuality" is important because your knowledge of a subject becomes honest and principled. It shouldn't alter to court popularity or play second best to social pressures. It should only change due to impersonal analysis and truth-seeking.
Being yourself requires total honesty and willingness to view yourself pragmatically.
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Postby miaamelia » Wed Dec 16, 2020 9:24 pm

It's hard to do to find yourself. Essentially, it means daring to be who you really are. 98% of individuals are unable to let go of what others expect them to be. I was surprised to discover that if their status is improved, even highly respected science researchers would change their opinion on a point of contention. That is more than the subject they research, "fitting in" matters. Eventually, I realized why Grigory Perelman, a mathematician, broke off ties with the international math community.
"individuality" is necessary to further understand this since the understanding of a subject becomes truthful and principled. It should not alter the popularity of the court or play second best against social pressures. Due to impersonal analysis and truth-seeking, it can only shift.
Being yourself needs absolute integrity and the ability to pragmatically interpret yourself.
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Postby miaamelia » Sat Jan 02, 2021 5:32 pm

It's hard to do to find yourself Essentially, it means daring to be who you really are. 98% of individuals are unable to let go of what others expect them to be. I was surprised to discover that if their status is improved, even highly respected science researchers would change their opinion on a point of contention. That is more than the subject they research, "fitting in" matters. Eventually, I realized why Grigory Perelman a mathematician, broke off ties with the international math community.
"individuality" is necessary to further understand this since the understanding of a subject becomes truthful and principled. It should not alter the popularity of the court or play second best against social pressures. Due to impersonal analysis and truth-seeking, it can only shift
Being yourself needs absolute integrity and the ability to pragmatically interpret yourself.
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