Old story came out and i don't know if i have to confess

Postby Guess what? » Wed Sep 02, 2020 11:09 am

Hi, im dating with a girl since january and we keep it up until now, i'd like to say we are enganged, even still i'm not letting go.

In the quarantine, like 2 months that i was dating with the first girl, i start talking with another girl (a friend of mine) about a game that we both play, but things changed quickly in 3 week (so 3 months) where she said she was interested in me, and i said that i was too when i saw her the first time.
She had a boyfriend, since 1 year and half, but we ended up talking for like a week (maybe 9 days) with explicit sexual messages, pics, and video where i have a climax, putting down my pic with the first girl when i was doing that....
after those 9 days I couldn't stand it anymore, and i said to her that i couldn't do that to my girl, and maybe we can try if one day we both will be single.

She cried, saying that she was sad, but i was in my position, then things still was little hot, but then everything became calm. We still talked, but as friends, and honestly im not even attracted to her anymore, or maybe and i wasn't much attracted even that time.

the trouble started the another day when her boyfriend found out that there was something. He saw an old screenshot of a chat group where a random dude shows his "member".
That was because me and that girl was in those weird chat where people share nudes and things like that. But that was like about 15 minutes. I was inserted in that chat, i see that it was an illegal chat, i shared the screenshot to her saying "wtf is wrong with these people, im gonna go out and report it" and then there is the end.

What's ridicolous it is that her boyfriend starting suspecting about EVERYTHING happened in quarantine, blaming and leaving her. She told me yesterday how he figured out how we was touching ourself while talking and other things like he already knew everything; he said that she is a b*tch and i'm disgusting. She can't lie, and in some way she confirmed almost everything -_- .

Now now, i lived well until now, since i was always in the mood of "i was just dating since a couple of months with the first one" (and one was of quarantine), "nothing was official" and "i didn't touch anybody, i had physical love only to her"; i don't even know why i did that; quarantine was stressful and my girl wasn't warm enough, not cuz she is not interested, but mostly kinda lacking experience.

I'm so doubtful, she knows about how i had a chat with this girl (and the fact that she invited me for a dinner after quarantine, that i changed it in a dinner with a group of people), and what happened yesterday: i mean the fact that the ex boyfriend is angry with me for the screenshot. Of course i hid worst things, but i know she is frail about these things, but i feel so dirty about it.
Even tho' many time happens to me that a girl leave me for another one even after much time of "relationship", but sure i didn't want to have revenge...

I always blamed who cheated, but i'm not different.
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Postby Candid » Wed Sep 02, 2020 11:31 am

Oh well. All it means is that you're not ready to get engaged yet.
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Postby Guess what? » Wed Sep 02, 2020 11:33 am

Candid wrote:Oh well. All it means is that you're not ready to get engaged yet.

What do you mean?
Like taking more time or cutting out with her?
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Postby Candid » Wed Sep 02, 2020 5:36 pm

See one or both of them and see what happens. Just don't make commitments you can't keep.
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Postby Guess what? » Wed Sep 02, 2020 5:42 pm

Candid wrote:See one or both of them and see what happens. Just don't make commitments you can't keep.


What?
Probably my bad english doesnt make clear what im trying to say.

With the second girl there is nothing. Im just feel bad about what happened with her (just chat and pics in a moment of crisis) months ago, at the start with the First one

Now im happy with the first girl, i dont know of confess tho'.... I feel i should avoid
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