No Self-Confidence... HELP

Postby Thomflan90 » Mon Feb 15, 2021 9:06 am

Hello all

To start off with; I will mention that I am a Binge Eater.. Need to lose atleast 60Kgs (140lb) and I don't have an iota of Self-Confidence.

I read an Article that said one of the most important things for getting on the Band Wagon, and staying there, is a Love for self... an Acceptance of Self.

Every Fibre of my Being wants to lose weight... I want to Love myself... I want to be Confident...

Whenever I approach this Idea in my Thoughts, I am left confused and empty... I have NO Love for myself, I hate the way I look, I hate the way I feel; I was (when I was younger) Suicidal at times but was too weak to even pull that off.

Please don't think I am just feeling Sorry for myself... the aforementioned statements are notions of truth and acceptance in my Mind... not something to be pitied upon.

Please for the Sake of everything that is Holy, is there someone else who has gone through this mindset?... and if so; what fixed it???/helped you manage it???? :? :?
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Postby Candid » Tue Feb 16, 2021 6:30 am

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Postby Melody » Sun Mar 21, 2021 3:59 pm

Yap. I go through this everyday. Im sorry I have no way of helping you though
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Postby Inzo » Fri Mar 26, 2021 9:10 pm

Hello, Self-confidence is sometimes challenging when you don't see a purpose in life. If you don't have a purpose or a goal you eventually fail to work towards something. having a clear plan and why exactly you need a change should be clear.

This is a gradual process and takes time. The only hard work here is you should not be giving up. Push through the pain and create some Good habits.

1. for every health and mental issue we have in our lives, there is always an underlying cause.
2. The underlying cause is a lack of clarity and motivation.

Find the purpose and you will surely get out of it.
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Postby AmandaJN » Tue Jun 08, 2021 8:21 am

Hi, I have struggled with my confidence all my life. Last year I discovered meditation and it has helped me so much. There are lots of different apps that help with guided meditations I really recommend giving it a try. I feel so much calmer and grounded and just have better mental health. Good luck :D
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Postby Thomflan90 » Tue Jun 08, 2021 8:57 am

Thank you for your reply, I'll give it a ho
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Postby georgemukela » Sat Sep 11, 2021 4:34 pm

First of all you have to understand that whether you lose weight or not, you are the same person. You are the same person in whatever shape you may be, what changes is the body. What I'm putting across is that the inner you is more important than your outer. That is the one who makes decisions and can choose to see things the way he wants. So be gentle with yourself, be patient and always know that even in your current weight, you are still special.
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