I cheated and now i feel horrible. I can't sleep and eat

Postby alcsandr.1 » Mon Jan 17, 2022 8:07 am

I've been with this boy for almost 4 years.

I went through a lot at first and had a tumultuous start. He started a business when we were very young and eventually devoted himself entirely to the business. He never stayed with me, I never went out and all he did was be careful with that business. I had a lot of discussions on this side and he explained to me that he can't leave his business and that every moment is precious for he to grow.
He is not a bad person at all, he is a very good man. He respected me all the time but I felt very alone with him. He made it clear to me that he would never be able to be as devoted as I wanted him to be. It seemed like I wanted too much but I just wanted to spend time together as a couple ... going on vacation and going out from time to time. He could never offer me that and I always waited for him to come home from work every night and we didn't do anything together.
One day I met someone online (we had known each other for many years through mutual friends) and I totally fell in love. This boy was funny and he seemed to be able to give me what I wanted. I started talking to him and I fell in love and then I told the current one that I want to move. In the 3 weeks I waited to move, I always talked to the other boy. Long story short, I moved in and argued a lot with boy B. I found out he was actually a psychopath and he tried to hurt me. He wrote to my ex and showed him everything I did, conversations and absolutely everything. Now I feel horrible, my ex doesn't want to hear from me anymore and he really hates me. I don't know what else to do, I can't sleep, I can't eat because I'm guilty. All the memories with my ex press me and I keep thinking that I was a horrible person. What can I do?
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Jan 17, 2022 1:59 pm

alcsandr.1 wrote: What can I do?


You learn from it.

You made a bad decision to get involved with boy A. You wanted something he was not willing to provide.

Then you made another bad decision. Instead of ending the relationship with boy A, you continued and began a side relationship with boy B.

We all make bad decisions. We all do things that we regret. What can we do? Many times all we can do is learn from it and move on. We resolve to make better decisions in the future.

There is no repairing the relationship with boy A. And even if you could, why? Why go back into a relationship you know is a bad decision? Why try to repair a relationship with someone that isn’t going to provide the companionship you want?

The above paragraph is about avoiding a 3rd bad decision. Don’t pursue boy A.

If I’m in your position, I take some time to reflect on who I am and what I want in life and what I want in a relationship. I take the lessons of the last four years and I move forward with life.
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Postby alcsandr.1 » Mon Jan 17, 2022 2:27 pm

Hi Richard,

Thank you for your time and for your words. It helps me. I honestly wouldn't want to go back to boy A, I know it was an unhappy life with him. It just kills me that I hurt a man in vain, that I destroyed his image of me, and that he will always see me as the girl who cheated on him. It's the guilt that it's killing me
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Postby ThanksToGod » Mon Jan 17, 2022 6:42 pm

You're a cheap whore!

You wanted money of the first and the love of the 2nd.

F*cking slut.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Jan 17, 2022 6:57 pm

Apologies alcsandr. Public forum, so no stopping a hypocritical person full of ignorance and hate with nothing useful to say.
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Postby ThanksToGod » Mon Jan 17, 2022 7:03 pm

ThanksToGod wrote:You're a cheap whore!

You wanted money of the first and the love of the 2nd.

F*cking slut.


I would give you a real solution.

You should bear witness that only The Creator Who Is Worthy of worship.

And then, ask Him to guide you to His religion. The religion He Will Accept in the Afterlife. Your sins will be forgiven after that.

Do you really think that you'll return to God without any accountability? You're delusional. Worship God alone and ask Him guidance and not from any of His creatures be it Jesus or any creation of His.

You say: No, I don't want to do any of that.

I reply: Hell is awaiting you after death.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Jan 17, 2022 7:05 pm

ThanksToGod wrote:I reply: Hell is awaiting you after death.


Look in the mirror.
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Postby ThanksToGod » Mon Jan 17, 2022 7:07 pm

Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:Apologies alcsandr. Public forum, so no stopping a hypocritical person full of ignorance and hate with nothing useful to say.


You're a C*ck. You apologize to a Whore!

How would you feel if your wife cheated on you, Cuck?

Would you love a simp apologizing for her if she did hear the truth?
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Postby ThanksToGod » Mon Jan 17, 2022 7:12 pm

Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:
ThanksToGod wrote:I reply: Hell is awaiting you after death.


Look in the mirror.


45:24 And they argue, “There is nothing beyond our worldly life. We die; others are born. And nothing destroys us but ˹the passage of˺ time.” Yet they have no knowledge ˹in support˺ of this ˹claim˺. They only speculate.


64:7 The disbelievers claim they will not be resurrected. Say, ˹O Prophet,˺ “Yes, by my Lord, you will surely be resurrected, then you will certainly be informed of what you have done. And that is easy for God.”


23:115 Did you then think that We had created you without purpose, and that you would never be returned to Us?”
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Jan 17, 2022 7:15 pm

If you believe, then whatever she has done or whatever I have done, has zero impact on the dark place where you currently exist and the even darker place where you are going. Enjoy your trolling.
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Postby ThanksToGod » Mon Jan 17, 2022 7:41 pm

Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:If you believe, then whatever she has done or whatever I have done, has zero impact on the dark place where you currently exist and the even darker place where you are going. Enjoy your trolling.



If you don't believe that The Creator is The only One Worthy of Worship, then you're nothing more than a too proud sophist.

If you believe that we've come from nothing and we're going to nothing, then you're a fool.

If you believe that The Creator Created us for nothing, you're a fool.

If you believe that the destination of Sinner is just as the destination of the non-sinner, you're a fool.
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Postby alcsandr.1 » Mon Jan 17, 2022 10:32 pm

You don't know nothing. The firs person didn't have any money, more than that I was helping him but you're just a hater online. Just spread your hate in other place. I feel sorry for you.
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Postby ThanksToGod » Tue Jan 18, 2022 7:40 am

Go ask God for forgiveness and guidance. This life is mortal. One day the Angel of death is going to take your soul. Return to The One Who Created you in this mortal life before entering Hell in the afterlife.

We all make mistakes. But you don't even admit your sin. You have no fear of God whatsoever as well.

Satan is beautifying this sin to you and trying to convince you that God Won't forgive you just as he thought.

39:53 Say, ˹O Prophet, that God says,˺ “O My servants who have exceeded the limits against their souls! Do not lose hope in God's mercy, for God certainly forgives all sins. He is indeed the All-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
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Postby alcsandr.1 » Tue Jan 18, 2022 7:45 am

Dude, you are crazy. I feel sorry for you.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Tue Jan 18, 2022 3:18 pm

He was banned.
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