Wife wants to split up - again.

Postby Fresha » Thu Jan 28, 2010 7:06 pm

I am going through so much stress. My wife has left me but we got back together. She is bulimic and manic depressive. For the last week she has frozen me out. She wants me to move out. I've got no money to move. I am shaking from stress. I have been taking voltaren painkillers and its making my stomach bleed. In every direction there's darkness. For this last week I have been shaking and crying. I have nobody close I can talk with. My wife was my emotional focus. She's manic depressive and goes through these mood swings but I'm lost. I can't go into work. I'm running out of money. I can't move out. I'm suspicious she's seeing some other man. Nowhere is there any kindness.
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Postby Dr.FernandoLiz » Thu Jan 28, 2010 9:01 pm

Hey,

Do you have any relatives living close? how about health services you can reach out to really soon?.. I'm sure there are some insititutions that can offer help for your case. There is really no darkness around, the only darkness is the one in the skies at night. This might even be pushing you to a change in your life (even if it might seem hasty) but you're taking it in a negative sense since your acting a little resourceless. Don't panick and seek out some place where you can be tended for your bleeding stomach and don't let your wife control your state, only you can do that.

You can keep venting if you choose to. We're here to listen.
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Postby element. » Sun Feb 28, 2010 1:49 pm

Fresha, from the look of it, you seem to be unable to control your wife's mood swings and don't have a say in the decisions she makes.

The last thing you want is for her condition to effuse into your life.

I understand that it may be difficult to talk to her through her state, but I'd strongly suggest that you solve this with her: by bringing up the issue of why you parted last time, and what brought the two of you back. If you rationalise that with her, and if you are able to show her why the last separation was a bad idea, she might begin to question her directive that you move out.
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Postby ellla » Sun Feb 28, 2010 8:48 pm

Fresha wrote:I am going through so much stress. My wife has left me but we got back together. She is bulimic and manic depressive. For the last week she has frozen me out. She wants me to move out. I've got no money to move. I am shaking from stress. I have been taking voltaren painkillers and its making my stomach bleed. In every direction there's darkness. For this last week I have been shaking and crying. I have nobody close I can talk with. My wife was my emotional focus. She's manic depressive and goes through these mood swings but I'm lost. I can't go into work. I'm running out of money. I can't move out. I'm suspicious she's seeing some other man. Nowhere is there any kindness.


gosh! theres me thinking I had a few problems :)

Seriously.. Fresha you need to be thinking about your own health right now you need to allow your friends and family to help because i'm sure if they knew what you are going through they'd want to. Firstly get your finances and Housing sorted .. then begin concentrating on YOUR Health.

When your in a better position you'll be able to make rational decsions where your wife is concerned.

You'll never do this with the state your in now.
I wish you all the best

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