My girlfriend was bulemic

Postby Willy279 » Wed Nov 28, 2012 6:25 pm

We're broken up now but I think it was related with some pretty serious emotional problems she had, and I'm not sure how to work that out. any reading on how bulemia relates to emotional problems and negatively impacts relationships?
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Postby Lamman » Thu Nov 29, 2012 9:56 pm

Hi there. Sorry to hear about your breakup. I am not sure if bluemia is the cause but perhaps it has affected your ex-girlfriend in some ways. Lack of nutrition is one I can think of. Particularly Iron deficiency. It can casue fatigue, dizziness, irritability etc. Pre-menopausal females are more likely to have iron deficiency. I am only guessing. Hopefully there will be more post replies shortly.
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Postby Willy279 » Thu Dec 20, 2012 5:31 pm

I was more interested in the emotional effects on her. She was also physically abused growing up and her dad was an alcoholic and gambler.
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Postby james120685 » Fri Jan 04, 2013 10:38 am

left her, you can easily find another..
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Postby overexposed » Fri Jan 11, 2013 1:53 pm

All eating disorders affect people emotionally, let's put it this way, she starts seeing everything in black and white, it's either too good or too bad and mostly it's too bad and that's because of malnutrition, it magnifies the bad stuff and focuses on them too.

Thinking about it alone is emotionally draining, you're fat you starve yourself to lose weight but then you get so hungry and you're craving so you go eat up all food the comes your way and then you feel guilty and purge, imagine how you would be feeling after all that... it's so tough and emotionally damaging, let alone a history of abuse.

I'm guessing she found it hard to trust you, people have been previously abused sometimes feel like it's going to happen again and again and that's why they might be looking for signs that someone else is going to abuse them so that they can avoid it, it's a bit extreme, but who wants to be abused again? it's a no brainer that she's insecure and too self-conscious and that's justified considering her eating disorder...

The thing is, there is nothing in the world that you could have ever done to help her unless she wanted to help herself, eating disordered people are usually smart enough to fool even themselves so there's really nothing to do about it, I think you need to just move on.
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Postby Old Timer » Tue Jan 15, 2013 2:01 pm

Eating disorders, abuse, alcoholism, drugs, these things are often related. It is not uncommon for someone who has been abused to end up with an eating disorder. It is not uncommon for someone with an eating disorder to also turn to drugs or alcohol. The real problem is always underlying emotions.

In other words, the eating disorder is because of emotional problems. The bulimia is not causing the emotional problems, they existed first.

That said, I would not blame the entire failure of your relationship. Eating disorders are very difficult to deal with but so are relationships. Trust is a big issue for me as well and I think that is common with people and EDs and I am sure that had an impact. But I would caution you against blaming everything on her and the ED. That is just as unrealistic as to consider it as unimportant.

Hope that helps you understand.
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Postby Blitzkreger » Fri Jan 18, 2013 12:10 am

eat mcds or burger king they have some good food there. I dont go because I like fruit and veg,.
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