Emotional Eating Sucks!

Postby Ambrusam » Fri Sep 27, 2013 2:19 pm

Hi guys
I came across this site and felt the need to write here. I have been struggling with emotional eating for the last few years...and it's so super hard (one of the hardest things I've dealt with!). It's funny...I choose to not drink/smoke/do drugs, and have no trouble what-so-ever sticking to that.However...when I'm stressed/overwhelmed/anxious/sad-I can't stop myself from eating (and eating, and eating, and eating). Why do I have good/strong self control on some things, and then for others-i have none? Seems kinda wonky to me. And the guilt/shame/negative selftalk I put myself through is horrible! This is sucky, and definitely not the way I want to live anymore. I know I need to make some changes, and I recognize I have a problem...but where does one start when it comes to "getting better"? Does this make any sense?
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Postby Candid » Fri Sep 27, 2013 11:26 pm

I choose to not drink/smoke/do drugs... when I'm stressed/overwhelmed/anxious/sad-I can't stop myself from eating (and eating, and eating, and eating).
You've chosen the least of several evils to deal with anxiety. It's your way of comforting yourself for the lack of love in your life.

If you didn't get the love you needed while growing up, you need to be able to find that love in yourself. I recommend that instead of being upset about over-eating, you acknowledge your vulnerability (which you've done here), accept yourself the way you are, and begin to affirm all your good qualities. When you love yourself you'll have no trouble making the right decisions for your body.
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Postby psychologist » Sun Sep 29, 2013 1:14 pm

It seems eating let you not to think about things that make you down.It's great that you've chosen a healthier way to calm yourself. But if it annoys you too much replace it with some physical movements , and it would be possible to do it just by practicing !

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Postby RichardVKincaid » Tue Oct 08, 2013 4:58 am

This over eating and drinking is not at all good for your body,this will not keep you fit ever you should eat healthy fruits and vegetables this will totally help you being fit.
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Postby Rosina » Thu Nov 21, 2013 12:21 am

I understand you perfectly because I have the same problem. I realized that not having junk food at home is a start. Also, promise yourself not to give in to compulsions, and when they come, get out of the house or even if you are elsewhere stop what you're doing and find a distraction...like take a drive in your car or start calling a list of friends to meet for coffee, run an errand, go see a movie etc etc... Distraction is the key here.
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Postby Carlythrowaway » Fri Dec 13, 2013 9:04 pm

It really does
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Postby Carlythrowaway » Fri Dec 13, 2013 9:05 pm

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Postby Carlythrowaway » Fri Dec 13, 2013 9:06 pm

I deal with this daily
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Postby staystrong » Thu Jan 30, 2014 2:31 am

This is absolutely normal and most people face this issue.
I have Italian genes which doesnt help with my weight situation, as well as medical but my eating habits do not help.
I think your best option is to replace food with a hobby of some sort. Why not trying a book, knitting, a walk or even cleaning.
Chewing gum is also a helpful method considering you are chewing on something but no consuming food.

My last bit of advice I found incredibly helpful, if you brush your teeth after a meal, the minty taste in your mouth helps to reduce cravings for snacking..

Hope this helps!
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Postby Josephus73 » Thu Jan 30, 2014 4:22 pm

A very old remedy for this kind of overeating is to eat very slowly. Chew everything at least 30 times. Sounds simple but worked for me when I had this problem!
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Postby Fackeffaced » Wed Feb 12, 2014 9:48 am

Maybe you are depresses, and your way of conquering it is through eating.
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Postby nicole.young » Thu Mar 06, 2014 8:20 pm

It does! The technique is to stay away from food. It is your choice on how you will do it. You can lock down your pantry, food cabinets, and avoid restaurants. Also, focus the energy on other things such as exercise.
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Postby Fackeffaced » Tue Mar 25, 2014 9:53 am

Indeed.
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Postby Mila333 » Thu Apr 03, 2014 12:05 pm

I know exactly how you feel. I just posted something about dealing with this issue too. I am just like you, I don't drink, smoke, or use any type of drugs, but the food is like the devil that is over me all the time. I am very determined in everything else in my life and I achieve what I set up for myself as a goal, but loosing weight and stop over eating is stronger than me. I feel like a looser every time I look at myself in the mirror.
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Postby kyrani99 » Thu Apr 03, 2014 1:55 pm

The obvious is that people over-eat when they are stressed and anxious etc., but they don’t understand why. It seems to help deal with the stress.. true but why?
The answer is in the biology.

The part of the nervous system that aids digestion is the same one (the parasympathetic nervous system PNS) that helps bring the body back to rest. So if a person eats something they will trigger their digestive system to begin working. If they eat something greasy then so much the better because fats are digested late in the process and here too the PNS facilitates the release of bile for fat digestion to take place. Thus by eating something greasy you will maintain a higher and longer PNS tone. That means that while your body is busy digesting food it is also close to rest and that brings release from stress. The down side of course is overweight. It is better to deal with the problem at the source.

Stress does not arise out of the blue by itself. There are others involved. These others are closely related to you and they are toxic. They may be family members, false friends, who appear good to keep you on a line, or they could be work associates. They all have their own agenda. The means involves mental suggestions, which means some of the thoughts that you think you are having are really suggestions and nothing more. Keep a log, discover what these thoughts are and throw them away for they are rubbish. Then you won’t get stressed. You need to work out who these people are and get them out of your life because toxic relationships are seriously harmful if you are not aware of them and the means of foul play but even when you do know they are a hassle you don’t need in your life.
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