Why should i use gestures in public speaking?

Postby skerteryt » Tue Apr 15, 2014 8:45 am

I never move my hands, nor in talk with friends, family, strangers in work or anywhere.
Why should i?
My mouths are for talking not my hands.
I dont allow myself to move my hands never and nowhere, but recently somebody told me that i should.
why?
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Postby laureat » Tue Apr 15, 2014 12:47 pm

Hi there : I am Laureat

There are situations that can trigger us a FEARFUL state of the mind; we should prioritize RELAXATION

However, sometimes we may feel GOOD: with the situation and maybe we want to put ourselves even on more pressure because we are capable of that;

for example; On the dates sometimes I focus on my BODY LANGUAGE :

maybe sometimes I move my hands so I can sound more CONVINCING :

maybe sometimes I keep touching her physically so she don't feel a STRANGER

We can send lots of messages; only with BODY LANGUAGE :

The importance of POSTURE : is to not be DOMINATED from people around PHYSICALLY : so my girl think about " NOW I HAVE SOMEONE WHO CAN PROTECT ME, SOMEONE WHO DON"T GIVE A SH*T ABOUT PEOPLE AROUND "

I see some people doing it wrong; they maybe have good body POSTURE : but they forgetting about making women feel comfortable like she is part of the PACK: and that is why I do those PHYSICAL TOUCHES: to make her ; feel LIKE WE ARE TOGETHER: I am not here to DOMINATE YOU : I am here to DOMINATE other people; together

I hope this comment was helpful: and have a nice day:
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Postby JuliusFawcett » Wed Apr 16, 2014 5:35 pm

Visual communication is as powerful as verbal, so using your hands will increase the intensity of your communication.
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Postby Eva Lu » Thu Apr 24, 2014 6:28 pm

Hi skerteryt,

I think that this is very interesting topic.
I would agree that some people use their hands too much when they are speaking and that can be very distracting.
What I've learned from professional TV presenters is that it is recommended to occasionally do gentle moves with your hands while speaking. Professional speakers use their hands to emphasize something important! So you need to use your hands wisely (only when it is really needed).

Also people will judge you more by your body language than by what your are saying. Some people can find your speech boring if you don't move your hands at all, and maybe they can miss something important if you don't emphasize it enough. In the end, point of every communication is that other person gets the message, if hand movement can help, then why not take advantage of this?
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Postby speakup_simon » Mon Apr 28, 2014 2:52 pm

I would say that hand gestures used correctly can be a great way to express yourself better while on stage.

What I would say however is that you have to do what is comfortable for you.

It is far more important to speak from the heart with passion. If this provokes you to move your hands then do so.

I wouldn't do it forcefully! What you may also find is that as you become more confident, you are more likely to use hand gesture and this is when it can be highly effective.
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Postby MarkKyte » Tue May 20, 2014 8:00 pm

I agree with speak up_simon. Do what is comfortable for you.

Gestures, if congruent with what you are saying will add extra impact to your speech or presentation. However the reverse is also true if the gesture do not match what you are saint....

A word of caution you are gesturing but are maybe unaware of it... A gesture is more than simply moving your arms, it is how you move and what facial expression you have. Is your facial expressions, movement, and arm gestures aligned to what you are saying?
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Postby rat123 » Fri Jun 13, 2014 3:55 pm

lame people don't move
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Postby joedalio » Mon Jul 07, 2014 7:32 pm

I know this Italian can't help using his hands! Seriously, your non-verbal communication can make a big difference in your presentation. As a teacher, I know how well students respond to visuals. If you can somehow use your hands to enhance that visual, you certainly add more power and persuasion to your performance.
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Postby Eva Lu » Mon Aug 04, 2014 8:03 pm

I completely agree with joedalio. The only way to learn something new, improve ourselves and grow is to get uncomfortable. All successful people who I know are successful just because they got out of their comfort zone in order to achieve something more meaningful. If little hand movement can help that others understand you better, that you are perceived as a better speaker and if it will give you more sympathy form others then why not try it? It can even improve your career. In the beginning it might feel weird, but with the time you feel get comfortable. Remember, practice get perfect! Some of the best speakers in the world who personally trained me, became so good speakers just because they trained every little body movement to the perfection . They took every possible opportunity to speak, not to feel comfortable, but to learn and practice, especially body language, which is more important.

The best way to decided if you need more hand movement or not is to just ask your friend or family member to film you while you are giving a short speech. When you see yourself on the camera, you will immediately know if you need more hand movement or not.
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Postby TheCarpenter » Wed Aug 06, 2014 4:09 am

speakup_simon wrote:I would say that hand gestures used correctly can be a great way to express yourself better while on stage.

What I would say however is that you have to do what is comfortable for you.

It is far more important to speak from the heart with passion. If this provokes you to move your hands then do so.

I wouldn't do it forcefully! What you may also find is that as you become more confident, you are more likely to use hand gesture and this is when it can be highly effective.


nice advice! i support you with this!
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Postby Alexander Ang » Sun Aug 10, 2014 8:01 am

Hi there,

Thank you for the sharing!

Gesture/Body language contribute to 55% of your communication. 38% by tonality and 7% by words. :idea:

Therefore gesture is important to deliver your presentation, or your messages across to your partner effectively.

People understand and learn things via 3 main channel and that is visual (seeing), auditory (listening), and kinaesthetic (touching). the other 2 were taste and smell. :idea:

Therefore, if we want to communicate well with others, creating good impression, getting girl friend, become successful in every aspect of your life, we need to learn how to communicate well with the combination of body language, tonality and then words.

Hope this helps. :)

Cheers!
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Postby mgspeaks » Sun Aug 10, 2014 8:35 pm

I completely agree with the sentiments of everyone else. The next thing I would say is realize that it can take multiple tries to get more comfortable on stage.
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Postby rat123 » Mon Aug 11, 2014 9:42 pm

Can someone delete this tread? Because it is the dumbest question I've ever heard.
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Postby sandyroony » Sat Sep 13, 2014 6:17 am

I would suggest doing something that might sound embarrassing, but it really works. You should take 2 videos of yourself speaking.
1) Yourself speaking without hand movements (as you normally do)
2) Record yourself with your eyes closed, being totally unconscious of your movements. It really helps if you aren't looking at anything or remember that there is a camera pointed at you.

Then afterward you can compare the two. I'm sure at first you will enjoy watching neither version, but you'll be able to see what works and what doesn't and then adjust.
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Postby apoorv.chaturvedi » Tue Sep 16, 2014 6:01 pm

Hi.

I think you should look at this differently. One what triggered this thought for you to ask this question, a self realisation or someones comment ( some one close to you).

Either ways you need to understand that body language & specifically hand gestures give life to your words, imagine a traffic cop not having hand gestures & instead using only his words, how many people would take him seriously.

If you are speaking at a formal event you want your message & the experience you create to be remembered by your audience or if you talking to your friend or spouse one on one you want the other person to take action....so you need to be assertive or expressive.

Hope this helps..Let me know if you have any follow on questions, will be happy to help. :)
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