Fear of public speaking gets annoying after a while

Postby dav1307 » Tue May 06, 2014 9:26 am

Ya know? I think psychologically, the fear of public speaking comes from not being totally in your own reality. It's kinda like a shield or boundary that those of us lack. I'm slowly but surely building that up simply b/c of how annoying this gets after enough years. Shield might be a bad word, more like you're able to still be yourself in those situations with groups of people. Like you're grounded.
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Postby dav1307 » Tue May 06, 2014 9:27 am

For those that have gotten over the fear, please share your thoughts on the psychological differences and changes you have.
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Postby JuliusFawcett » Tue May 06, 2014 6:49 pm

Letting go of fear is possible, the consequences of doing so are numerous and working through those is actually the bigger deal.

When we let go of fear we tend to say what we think more, so it becomes really important to condition ourselves to be really nice about everybody, really gentle with everybody, and really sure about what we love to do.

When fear is dissolved, why do we get up in the morning? Why do we stay with our friendship group? Why do we eat well? Why do we avoid drugs or drink?

Letting go of fear opens the doorway to many more challenges than public speaking, and it does make a person very attractive and cool.
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Postby dav1307 » Wed May 07, 2014 4:54 am

JuliusFawcett wrote:Letting go of fear is possible, the consequences of doing so are numerous and working through those is actually the bigger deal.

When we let go of fear we tend to say what we think more, so it becomes really important to condition ourselves to be really nice about everybody, really gentle with everybody, and really sure about what we love to do.

When fear is dissolved, why do we get up in the morning? Why do we stay with our friendship group? Why do we eat well? Why do we avoid drugs or drink?

Letting go of fear opens the doorway to many more challenges than public speaking, and it does make a person very attractive and cool.


That is an awesome response! Will take a while to ponder that. :)
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Postby JuliusFawcett » Wed May 07, 2014 6:04 am

Thanks for the appreciation :)
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Postby presentationskills » Fri May 09, 2014 10:30 am

TOTALLY agree that its just such an annoying thing to hold you back!! Many people who dont take the leap as they are fearful could overcome much of their fear with a few simple tips for practice. I would reccommend signing up for the free Presentation SuperSummit next week (12-16 May). The world's top gurus on public speaking are live online and you can ask them questions. Im hoping to learn a lot...google presentation supersummit to find it
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Postby dav1307 » Sat May 10, 2014 1:22 am

presentationskills wrote:TOTALLY agree that its just such an annoying thing to hold you back!! Many people who dont take the leap as they are fearful could overcome much of their fear with a few simple tips for practice. I would reccommend signing up for the free Presentation SuperSummit next week (12-16 May). The world's top gurus on public speaking are live online and you can ask them questions. Im hoping to learn a lot...google presentation supersummit to find it


Thanks!
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Postby professor » Thu Sep 25, 2014 8:40 pm

I just wanna say that I have won a battle with that fear. For me the key thing was to change my attitude towards it from negative to positive one. I have decided to fight back to that fear because the only way to actually conquer that fear is to fight him back. Note, I had to embarrass myself a few times but I didn't give up, plus I had problem with stammering for 16 years.

Now I am 22 years old and I love public speaking, I love to share positive energy and I love to help people. :D
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Postby Uphorix » Mon Oct 06, 2014 7:25 pm

Public speaking reinforced my confidence in myself. The more I do it, the more comfortable I feel with being in front of a crowd. The more comfortable I feel in front of a crowd, the more I speak publicly.
Beforehand, I was shy to confidence. I ignored or went out of my way to avoid situations.
The biggest difference before and after the fact was in HOW I controlled the nervous energy I got prior to speaking.
Accepting the feeling, and utilizing this feeling during a speech.
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Postby rickyfran » Sat Oct 11, 2014 12:53 am

I deal with it by focusing in on just one friendly face from the crowd.
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Postby kendell5 » Tue Oct 14, 2014 6:27 pm

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