Emotionally Intelligent Children

Postby EffieGr » Wed Nov 12, 2014 2:56 pm

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I am a psychologist and I have been talking to many parents lately about the importance of emotional intelligence in children. Unfortunately I have realised that many are anaware of the concept. Are you informed about how it works with children and of its benefits? I think that its sad that nowadays people don't realise how vital this is.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Wed Nov 12, 2014 6:26 pm

Probably because EI is relatively new and still receives quite a bit of criticism from the scientific community. For parents, it will require more psychologists to endorse and find the concept useful before widespread adoption takes place.

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_intelligence

Read "Diffusion of Innovations", by Everett Rogers. One example is how it took roughly 200 years from the time a cure was found for scurvy to the adoption of the cure fleet wide by the British Navy.
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Postby EffieGr » Mon Nov 17, 2014 9:09 am

Richard thank you for the reply. You are right. But I think from intervention and education is needed on the subjects from medical practitioners, to teachers and everyone who is working alongside parents and children alike.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Nov 17, 2014 2:12 pm

EffieGr wrote: But I think from intervention and education is needed...


And while you think it is needed regarding EI, you are competing with thousands of others that think the same thing, but a different focus. Programs focus on educating parents about seatbelt safety, obesity, diet, providing an education, not selling their children, not beating their children, planned parent hood, birth control, obtaining clean drinking water, how to handle money, how to resolve arguments, anger management, domestic violence, anti-drug education, anti-gang education, bicycle safety, importance of child hygiene, inoculations, etc. etc. etc.

Parents are flooded with available programs. For EI to become a priority for parents, I agree with you regarding what must take place, but I do see it as an uphill battle unless EI can be demonstrated and then marketed to have some benefits that outweigh the other programs.
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Postby EffieGr » Tue Nov 18, 2014 4:56 pm

ermm.... why does one exclude the other? its either all the other programs or EI? Besides....I hope you do know that all these problems you just mentioned ....are created mostly due to lack of EI! Enough said.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Tue Nov 18, 2014 5:25 pm

EffieGr wrote:ermm.... why does one exclude the other? its either all the other programs or EI?


ermm, read the book on the diffusion of innovations I suggested and you will better understand. One doesn't necessarily exclude the other, but each program does compete against the others for finite resources and it is not always the best, most effective program that wins. Often times the most politically connected or better marketed program gets all or most of the resources.

EffieGr wrote:Besides....I hope you do know that all these problems you just mentioned ....are created mostly due to lack of EI! Enough said.


No, I don't know, because I have not read any peer reviewed research that supports lack of EI parenting as being causal, specific to any of the issues mentioned. If you would like to provide the peer reviewed articles that confirm causality, such as lack of EI parenting causes childhood obesity or drug use, violence etc. I would enjoy reading it. And I don't doubt it is out there, I am sure studies have been done...well I'm sure studies regarding children EI and say aggression. I'm not as confident there exists many parenting intervention studies, that demonstrate a particular style of parenting causes children to have high EI which in turn causes the child to no longer engage in counterproductive behaviors.

Listen, I think your heart is in the right place. You posted a question/statement regarding the lack of parental knowledge. I responded simply stating the uphill battle EI faces. You respond by stating, "Enough Said". Well, apparently not, because no one knows about EI and parental intervention strategies. Apparently enough said is not enough.
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Postby Todd » Sun Mar 15, 2015 11:26 am

Subconscious programming when you is vital. The more emotional intelligence the parent can pass onto the child at a younger age, the better off they will be when they are older.
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Postby Thegoodwitch » Thu Oct 15, 2015 1:57 am

Do you think EI in children is some thing that can be enhanced through parenting? What are the signs of a high EI in children? Also, on a different note...I feel like as an adult I am so in tune with others emotions and so quick to empathize I am gullible honestly, I overlook someone being rude to me because I can see the bigger picture of their life and the obvious problems they are having. Are there any suggested books on this topic or advice?
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