Need Men opinion, is this just "purely physical sex" to him?

Postby ishe » Sun Dec 28, 2014 1:30 pm

I lost my virginity to my boyfriend of one year. He had lots of sexual experience in the past. We both are in our late twenties.

He the first guy I sleep wtih so I do get shy, and little tense during sex. First time was painful for me, but now it getting better. I'm still shy with him in bed, I don't know why.

He knows I was a virgin. So all he did is just the tradditional sex, with him always on the top. I'm sexually inexperience, so he is the one with full control in bed.

During sex he look/stare at my face, touches my face, kisses my lips and neck alot. And when he see my face show pain, he go slower and more gentle.
Maybe he stares at my facial expression is not becasue of love, but because he knows I was a virgin so he didn't want to hurt me? Maybe out of pity/sympathy?

Him looking make me sooo embarrassed, as he is seeing facial expression when he getting it on. Lights is dim, but I guess I am still shy, so I'm trying to hide my facial emotions.

How to know when it more than just physical sex to him? Or is he having sex with me just for the shake of getting it off?
Sorry, he the only guy I sleep with. So I don't know if other guys are like him whom like to look/stare at their girl while getting it on?

I ask this because my BF, he had quite lots of one night stand in the past; where he told me that it was just 'PURELY physical' to him, he leave right after sex, and he didn't even bother to send those girls a 'thank you' text. I thought that was cruel of him.

So I don't know if he serious with me, or I'm just another girl in his 'purely physical sex' list. My mind right now is like wondering about his actions in bed.
I really don't want to be just a body for him to get it off when ever he have the needs. Hope I make sense
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sun Dec 28, 2014 1:48 pm

How he had sex with you has little to do with if he sees you as a one night stand or a long term relationship.

Does he enjoy your company, do you have things in common, do you have similar goals and values in life, do you share similar beliefs are better questions to ask yourself regarding if he thinks of you as a long term relationship.
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Postby TheCloud » Fri Jan 02, 2015 6:07 pm

This issue begins on your end. You have trust issues. Your boyfriend is doing nothing to indicate that he is not interested in you as a person; on the contrary, everything you mention describes a attentive, caring lover. If he has sex with you, there is no question that he is going to experience pleasure from it. That is how sex works. Are you concerned that he is experiencing physical pleasure from your body?
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