Great replies, thank you all.
cari wrote:You just need to accept others. Some people just don't care about what you want because they are too busy working for what they want and that's not a bad thing.
I hadn't thought of this before! If I could observe myself, I would think I had little depth at first because I keep myself to myself

,I think if I was to meet myself however, I would understand this is not the case, so that reduces the amount of people I see as shallow!
your.transformations wrote:I sound like you are not letting yourself do what you want to do
Simply put, this is not the case

I know who I am and what I want, and if I want something enough I will try my best to get it, thanks for the response though.
Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:Missing out on what?
Beloved wrote:Have they changed or have you changed?
McCain wrote:Do you want to be a shallow person? Do you think it's a guilt free life ? Do you feel your missing out of the "nobody gives a $hit party"?
McCain
I connect with other people of all ages and have interesting conversations and a good laugh with whoever, but In my own head, if I thought what it would be like
if I was less curious and more ignorant of what's around me then I could imagine being less stressed and being able to connect on a different level with these people who I perceive to be shallow. Possible reasons for how I am feeling like this;
The stress part1.)I am stressed from study and work, I need to be more resilient- I have always been inconsistent with my effort levels to everything (High or Low) and I certainly struggle with consistency so any guidance on how I can reduce these swings would be great help

I think being tired has caused me to be irrational but I can see now that the problem is not that I cannot connect with people in general, but that I cannot connect to a specific type of person. It is not that I feel like I am missing out, but that I am on a different wavelength to these certain shallow people- please see my next paragraph about what I classify as shallow and that I am not overgeneralising.
The connecting on a different level with shallow people, part2.) -Other people's responses are converging all of the time and it seems like other people's ideas are more safe and less risky, whereas I like to suggest my own ideas and opinions to every conversation.
-It seems as if people have become lazy; they all have the same haircuts, the same college bag, similar ways of expression and care a lot about appearance and celebrities (who is doing well, who died etc.) I just don't care about that stuff.
-It gets on my nerves when male's explicitly share their views on how attractive a woman looks, (even when I think the same) I just find it inappropriate and old-fashioned to feel the need to share these things, unless we are in need of advice from peers. These people constantly judge a book by it's cover and I think that is the worst thing when you could have met somebody so significant yet you choose not to interact with them simply because their face value is different.
In short, I miss how people do not appear to be truly themselves any more and as I get older, there is becoming less and less people who are willing OR able to express themselves. This saddens me because I want to learn and see things differently everyday because I am not perfect and want to learn things that others see in me that I don't.
(FOR EXAMPLE ON HERE YOU ALL GAVE ME DIFFERENT HELPFUL VIEWS!!!!)
But people in real life are becoming less unique and aren't able to give me so many different viewpoint!
Here is an analogy; Letters represent people in this case. A , B , C, D, E are 5 different people on this forum who offered me 5 different responses.
F, G, H, I, J are 5 different people in real life, but appear as only F, G because H, I, J are not able to or willing to be themselves.
There are MANY people who are not shallow but now it seems even MORE who are.
I have met some amazing characters from all walks of life and it feels great to be able to connect with such random people!
I am just concerned whether it is society as a whole that has shifted or if it is me who is out of touch.Please do not assume I think grandiosely of myself or that I think I am more intelligent than others, this isn't true. I feel as though the more I learn about the brain and why we behave the way we do, the more obvious people's imitation is to me and the more I feel like I am talking to the same, shallow person.