can I break the friendship?

Postby kevin2014 » Sun Mar 08, 2015 3:40 pm

I made a friendship in facebook with some people by sending them requests and they are my classmates.I no longer want them to be my friend for many reasons.can I break the friendship both in virtual and real life?If they say,'no you can't,as you have wanted to become my friend.you'll have to remain my friend always'
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sun Mar 08, 2015 3:58 pm

I offer the same advice as your other thread on meeting people online...yes, you can end the relationships.

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Postby kevin2014 » Sun Mar 08, 2015 5:24 pm

really?
I used to talk to them online.If they says,'you have chatted with me online and used my time.You can't break the relationship' then?
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Postby kevin2014 » Sun Mar 08, 2015 5:32 pm

I think I have used them by chatting with them on the internet and consuming their time for my pleasure.So breaking relationship makes me guilty.
But it is very much urgent to break the relationship.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sun Mar 08, 2015 6:32 pm

You keep posting the same question. Are you just waiting for someone to tell you the answer that you want to hear? Okay...I have changed my mind. You must stay friends. Now you can move forward with life.
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Postby kevin2014 » Sun Mar 08, 2015 6:50 pm

why are u being angry sir?Try to understand how it is going on me.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sun Mar 08, 2015 6:59 pm

kevin2014 wrote:why are u being angry sir?Try to understand how it is going on me.


Listen. I'm not angry with you. I am simply pointing out that you have been told from multiple people that yes, you can break a friendship. You apparently don't like that answer. Repeating your question does not change your situation. It is up to you whether or not to use the advice or ignore the advice.
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Postby kevin2014 » Sun Mar 08, 2015 7:20 pm

I want to break the friendship.But what will I reply If they ask me why i had acted with them like a friend and why I had used them.That's my fear.

I am sorry to disturb you sir.
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Postby thisisfredsmith » Sun Mar 08, 2015 8:31 pm

Okay,

Here's a different answer that I have and I am using in a situation similar to yours.

Do both.

Here's how in 5 simple steps:

1. Keep your FaceBook page.
2. In your profile page, simply state you are on FaceBook as a utility only, and you check your email once a week and will reply to emails as they appear. Don't forget to turn off your messenger to appear as "invisible" online.
3. Do not post things on your FaceBook wall. If you do, do it sparingly.
4. Change all of your settings to "Private" and check the boxes requesting FB doesn't index or show your profile publicly.
5. If you absolutely must post on your FaceBook, or if you have a business and you're using Facebook for that purpose, simply establish a Business Page or Fan Page. That way you can build your audience, segment out your old and new friends, and you'll have the best of all worlds.

Through time, they'll get distracted with other things on the Internet anyway, and will become apathetic toward you, and reduce/ eliminate communication, since you have low visibility.

I have people on my FB right now who I don't hear from; nor quite frankly, I don't want to. I may look at their profiles to see what's going on in my old city, or class reunion events and/or occasions, but that's about it.

Hope this helps.
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Postby TeeJee » Mon Mar 09, 2015 7:14 am

Of course you can unfriend the people whenever your not comfortable being with them or you don't want them to be involved in your life.
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Postby Candid » Mon Mar 09, 2015 9:19 am

kevin2014 wrote:I want to break the friendship.But what will I reply If they ask me...


Who cares what they ask you? If it's over, it's over. http://www.lightshouse.org/how-to-go-no ... z3ToHbbfLq

It's your life, Kevin. And it's delicious when you just do what you need to do, without caring what They think.
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Postby kyrani99 » Mon Mar 09, 2015 3:04 pm

kevin2014 wrote:I want to break the friendship.But what will I reply If they ask me why i had acted with them like a friend and why I had used them.That's my fear.

I am sorry to disturb you sir.


Just end the friendships and if they'' ask anything and you wish to reply just remember that they had chosen to spend their time relating to you so it is not your fault or that you were wasting their time. If they didn't want to respond they would not have. Now you don't want to relate to them so tell them. I don't want to be friends anymore. Why? Just because! It is your time you should be concerned about. They are only wanting to control you and that means they are not worthy of your friendship.
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Postby Denim_Cool » Tue Mar 10, 2015 1:39 pm

If you want or do not want.... why not? I think it's normal to say "no".
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